To men women are complicated beautiful and irresistible Goddesses. I can admit it; we can be pretty demanding and hard to please sometimes. However, if we were not here, there would not be any beauty; no one for you guys to argue with, no make-up sex, you would not have that other half that completes you and there would be no scent and the scent of a woman is enough to drive any man insane. You might have found that one and you just don't know what to do to get her more into you. It's not complicated when it comes to pleasing a woman. Honesty is number one on the list, be yourself and hopefully you will not run her away. Here are 10 real ways to get to her heart and make her all yours.
1. As I said before, honesty is number one. Be honest like if you are going through a divorce let her know, do not wait until the last minute, and let her know what she's getting herself in too.
2. Tell a little about yourself not too much. You have plenty of time to get to know one another. Do not be uptight show her that you know how to have a good time.
3. Treat her like a woman! Compliment her, open doors, take her shopping if there is one thing everyone knows about women is that we love to shop. Act as if you are really into her, make her feel special.
4. Don't ignore her! Listen and respond communication is very important. We like to be listened to and we like to know that you are really listening, you do not want to mess that up because there will be questions about anything she is talking to you about.
5. Find out things that she likes to do instead of you thinking of what she might like. Be understanding if you have to sit with her and watch one of her favorite romantic movie with her, you might feel like running for your life, but in thee end it will pay off.
6. Do not rush her to have sex with you. You should at least wait until she makes a move or if the topic about sex has came up just let her know that you are here and will always will be until she's ready.
7. Cook for her, a man that can cook is so sexy. Find out what type of songs she likes and make her a CD. Pop it in the next time she comes to your place. She will find that flattering knowing that you care about the things she is into. Don't have any of your ex-girlfriends into the picture they are the past so act like it's that way.
8. When it is time, don't just have sex make love, make passionate love. Appreciating a woman's body will definitely put you closer to her heart. Anyone can have sex, let her know you see her for who she is express what you feel, be gentle and thoughtful. If you have a problem, giving her pleasure read the book Female Orgasm Revealed it is a hot sex book that teaches you moves on how to give your lover mind-blowing pleasure. If she has a wild side and you enjoy it, try some exotic underwear for men. Adam & Eve.com has tons of sexual games and lingerie to fulfilling sexual desires.
9. Give her that sense of security. Let her know that you are her protector, but do not crowd her. Appreciate her independence and her strength; if she feels you are intimidated by that then you are setting yourself up for disaster. Don't be afraid to spend money on her. Buy her flowers, chocolate, a book by one of her favorite authors, or take an off day to something fun. Make her laugh, play games, go skating be adventurous.
10. Finally yet importantly let her drive your car. Yes, I know some men are obsessed with their vehicles but if you let her drive it, you will be letting her know that you are really into her and trust her.
Thursday, 12 November 2009
Signs That He Cares About You – Insight into What Your Man is Feeling
Women sometimes have to jump to conclusions when it comes to trying to determine exactly what their man feels for them. Men aren’t nearly as transparent as we are with their feelings. It’s easy to want him to love you as much as you love him but if his behavior is telling you otherwise, it’s hard to know exactly what to think. Luckily there are a few signs that he cares about you that will give you some insight into his heart. If you notice any of these in your man, you can rest assured that he’s already crazy about you.
One of the telltale signs that he cares about you is he’ll be much more interested in talking about you than himself. Most of us have dated at least one man who just couldn’t seem to get enough of himself. Men like this aren’t in love with anyone but themselves. If your guy wants to know how your day was and if he is constantly asking you questions about yourself, he’s hooked. Pay close attention the next time you two have dinner. Weigh how much he talks about you versus how much he talks about himself. If the conversation is focused on you, you’ve got nothing to worry about. He’s already yours.
Many women complain that their man just can’t seem to be the one to pick up the phone to call. This is frustrating and it can make a woman question how much her man really cares about her. A man in love will call. He’ll want to talk and he’ll want to make plans. If he’s busy, he’ll still find time to call to say hi. If you’re always the one calling him or arranging your plans together, he may not be as interested in you as you are in him.
You should also take note of how much he wants to help you. When a man cares about a woman he’ll go out of his way to do things for her. He’ll always be offering his help whether she expresses a need for it or not. This isn’t necessarily because he wants to impress you, but rather he just wants to make your life as easy and comfortable as possible. If your man is doing this for you, he feels very close to you.
One of the telltale signs that he cares about you is he’ll be much more interested in talking about you than himself. Most of us have dated at least one man who just couldn’t seem to get enough of himself. Men like this aren’t in love with anyone but themselves. If your guy wants to know how your day was and if he is constantly asking you questions about yourself, he’s hooked. Pay close attention the next time you two have dinner. Weigh how much he talks about you versus how much he talks about himself. If the conversation is focused on you, you’ve got nothing to worry about. He’s already yours.
Many women complain that their man just can’t seem to be the one to pick up the phone to call. This is frustrating and it can make a woman question how much her man really cares about her. A man in love will call. He’ll want to talk and he’ll want to make plans. If he’s busy, he’ll still find time to call to say hi. If you’re always the one calling him or arranging your plans together, he may not be as interested in you as you are in him.
You should also take note of how much he wants to help you. When a man cares about a woman he’ll go out of his way to do things for her. He’ll always be offering his help whether she expresses a need for it or not. This isn’t necessarily because he wants to impress you, but rather he just wants to make your life as easy and comfortable as possible. If your man is doing this for you, he feels very close to you.
Sunday, 8 November 2009
Wedding Tuxes for the Groom
You'll want to look as dapper as possible when you marry the love of your life and that's where wedding tuxes go a long way to making you look like a prince. But wedding tuxes aren't the only thing you need to consider if you want to look great for your bride. Accessories help a formal suit into something outstanding. Paying attention to your accessories can help you look the best you can for your fiancee.
Unless you're going for the somewhat dated band collar, you're going to need a necktie. And thanks to the many different styles of wedding tuxes, you also have a few choices when it comes to choosing neck wear. For your wedding day, it's best to stick with something conservative in regards to variety of colors and patterns. A few ideas to consider are a silver tie goes well with a black tuxedo. You can even get away with a well-done weave or a stripe. For ultra formal wedding tuxes, go for a white tie. Black ties always look formal and bow ties tend to look slightly more formal than long neckties. Colored ties work for groomsmen if you're trying to match them to the bridesmaids. They also work for less formal weddings.
Vests are a better choice than cummerbunds, although both allow you to set your suit apart. Vests are also known as waistcoats. You can choose a standard black or white or pick more colors. White tends to be more formal and should be paired with white neck wear. With your typical rental of wedding tuxes, you'll find the backless vests are most common. It may, however, be worth it to spend a little more for the vest with a back because it's more stylish and looks better when you remove your jacket.
A cummerbund is pleated fabric worn at the waist in a band. They are never worn with a vest and are used instead of a waistcoat. The ruffles stay up and the color should compliment the other colors in your wedding party, although basic black is the safest bet. Do not walk around without your jacket when wearing a cummerbund because you'll only succeed in looking poorly groomed and unkempt.
Make sure you choose a great pair of shoes
. It's essential for the complete formal and groomed looking of wedding tuxes. You can wear shoes you already own as long as they match, do not have adornments and are in good shape. Otherwise you can either buy an elegant patent leather shoe or rent a pair. Shoes need to be polished to a rich shine so that they look the best they possibly can.
Little details such as cuff links and a stud set can really do wonders for the look of all sorts of wedding tuxes. They may be tiny flourishes, but they can make a big statement. You can go with a classic shape for your cuff links or pick something custom-designed to match your hobbies or personal interests.
Stud sets on formal shirts are used in place of buttons. They often come with the rental of wedding tuxes, but the quality is typically poor. If you want to use stud set, you can buy your own and make sure they either match or compliment your cuff links for a fully finished look.
Unless you're going for the somewhat dated band collar, you're going to need a necktie. And thanks to the many different styles of wedding tuxes, you also have a few choices when it comes to choosing neck wear. For your wedding day, it's best to stick with something conservative in regards to variety of colors and patterns. A few ideas to consider are a silver tie goes well with a black tuxedo. You can even get away with a well-done weave or a stripe. For ultra formal wedding tuxes, go for a white tie. Black ties always look formal and bow ties tend to look slightly more formal than long neckties. Colored ties work for groomsmen if you're trying to match them to the bridesmaids. They also work for less formal weddings.
Vests are a better choice than cummerbunds, although both allow you to set your suit apart. Vests are also known as waistcoats. You can choose a standard black or white or pick more colors. White tends to be more formal and should be paired with white neck wear. With your typical rental of wedding tuxes, you'll find the backless vests are most common. It may, however, be worth it to spend a little more for the vest with a back because it's more stylish and looks better when you remove your jacket.
A cummerbund is pleated fabric worn at the waist in a band. They are never worn with a vest and are used instead of a waistcoat. The ruffles stay up and the color should compliment the other colors in your wedding party, although basic black is the safest bet. Do not walk around without your jacket when wearing a cummerbund because you'll only succeed in looking poorly groomed and unkempt.
Make sure you choose a great pair of shoes
. It's essential for the complete formal and groomed looking of wedding tuxes. You can wear shoes you already own as long as they match, do not have adornments and are in good shape. Otherwise you can either buy an elegant patent leather shoe or rent a pair. Shoes need to be polished to a rich shine so that they look the best they possibly can.
Little details such as cuff links and a stud set can really do wonders for the look of all sorts of wedding tuxes. They may be tiny flourishes, but they can make a big statement. You can go with a classic shape for your cuff links or pick something custom-designed to match your hobbies or personal interests.
Stud sets on formal shirts are used in place of buttons. They often come with the rental of wedding tuxes, but the quality is typically poor. If you want to use stud set, you can buy your own and make sure they either match or compliment your cuff links for a fully finished look.
Learn The Easiest Way To Make Him Love You Again - Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Now
There are many ways to get an ex boyfriend back, but the problem is, after a breakup and your emotions are running at their peak, you listen to your heart instead of your head and things you ordinarily would not do. Your first and only thought is getting your ex back. That is all that matters to you right now. So you run after him crying and pleading for him to love you again. This will never work. If you want to lose your man forever keep in his face with pleas threats or trying to make him feel sorry for you. This will not get an ex back. It will only drive him to run and hide from you.
The best thing you can do right after a breakup is disappear from his life completely. No contact at all. Let him have time to think. He cannot think or begin to wonder if the breakup was a mistake if you are constantly in his face reminding him of why he broke up with you. The best thing is for you to find something to occupy your mind other than you ex. A good start would be to get back with the friends and relatives you may have been neglected. You need to be around people that love you right now. They will welcome you with open arms and give you the comfort and love you need.
During this time away from him you should try to think of the main cause for the breakup. No doubt there were a lot of little annoyances, but do not dwell on these because you are after the biggest reason or reasons for the split. Once you have isolated these reasons you will need to think of how you can take some sensible measures to fix them. If they are just left to hang in the air and be repeated you can never achieve the happy relationship you seek.
During this time away from him your ex has had time to consider some things also. He will come to see how much he misses you and needs you in his life. At this same time, you will have come up with the main causes of the breakup and a way to keep them from ever happening again. With your ex beginning to miss you, and you having found a way to fix your relationship problems, this is the time to formulate a plan to get your ex boyfriend back and make him love you again.
The best thing you can do right after a breakup is disappear from his life completely. No contact at all. Let him have time to think. He cannot think or begin to wonder if the breakup was a mistake if you are constantly in his face reminding him of why he broke up with you. The best thing is for you to find something to occupy your mind other than you ex. A good start would be to get back with the friends and relatives you may have been neglected. You need to be around people that love you right now. They will welcome you with open arms and give you the comfort and love you need.
During this time away from him you should try to think of the main cause for the breakup. No doubt there were a lot of little annoyances, but do not dwell on these because you are after the biggest reason or reasons for the split. Once you have isolated these reasons you will need to think of how you can take some sensible measures to fix them. If they are just left to hang in the air and be repeated you can never achieve the happy relationship you seek.
During this time away from him your ex has had time to consider some things also. He will come to see how much he misses you and needs you in his life. At this same time, you will have come up with the main causes of the breakup and a way to keep them from ever happening again. With your ex beginning to miss you, and you having found a way to fix your relationship problems, this is the time to formulate a plan to get your ex boyfriend back and make him love you again.
Wednesday, 4 November 2009
Why Real Love Requires Self Love
MAIN QUOTE
“We are want to condemn self-love; but what we really mean to condemn is contrary to self-love. It is that mixture of selfishness and self-hate that permanently pursues us, that prevents us from loving others, and that prohibits us from losing ourselves.” ~ Paul Valery, French Poet, 1871 - 1945
DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS
As a counselor I have often told people that they need to learn to love themselves. Yet, while saying this to others, I have at times taken pause to reflect and ask myself, “What does that really mean? How do we know the difference between a self-love and a selfish love? And, what can we do practically to love ourselves in the right way?” Perhaps the quote above holds a clue, because I believe true self love fills us with enough joy, peace, and love that our desire to be loving human beings grows. Because of this we want to express more empathy, compassion, and understanding towards others. Selfish love does the contrary. It increases our sense of self-loathing or our disdain and anger towards others. It causes us to act increasingly in our own best interests without considering the interests of others. It causes us to want to sacrifice others needs and desires in service to our own, instead of the other way around. Or, it causes us to self-destruct through a number of behaviors that may feel good temporarily, but ultimately they lead to the shutting down of our hearts and spiral us downward into increased self-loathing and self-reproach.
How then do we love ourselves in the right way? By first and foremost learning what love is. Then, by insisting that we feed ourselves with that love. This is best done by finding people who know how to love. From them we learn how to adopt loving mindsets, feelings, and behaviors. And, it is done by setting boundaries on people who don’t know how to encourage the greatest level of love in us. Because when we truly have that kind of love in our lives we are increasingly a blessing to others. Which is why real love requires that we love ourselves in the right way, so we can have the strength to love, the wisdom to love, and the energy to love those who need our love the most.
Blessings,
Dr. Lisa Love
Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.
“We are want to condemn self-love; but what we really mean to condemn is contrary to self-love. It is that mixture of selfishness and self-hate that permanently pursues us, that prevents us from loving others, and that prohibits us from losing ourselves.” ~ Paul Valery, French Poet, 1871 - 1945
DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS
As a counselor I have often told people that they need to learn to love themselves. Yet, while saying this to others, I have at times taken pause to reflect and ask myself, “What does that really mean? How do we know the difference between a self-love and a selfish love? And, what can we do practically to love ourselves in the right way?” Perhaps the quote above holds a clue, because I believe true self love fills us with enough joy, peace, and love that our desire to be loving human beings grows. Because of this we want to express more empathy, compassion, and understanding towards others. Selfish love does the contrary. It increases our sense of self-loathing or our disdain and anger towards others. It causes us to act increasingly in our own best interests without considering the interests of others. It causes us to want to sacrifice others needs and desires in service to our own, instead of the other way around. Or, it causes us to self-destruct through a number of behaviors that may feel good temporarily, but ultimately they lead to the shutting down of our hearts and spiral us downward into increased self-loathing and self-reproach.
How then do we love ourselves in the right way? By first and foremost learning what love is. Then, by insisting that we feed ourselves with that love. This is best done by finding people who know how to love. From them we learn how to adopt loving mindsets, feelings, and behaviors. And, it is done by setting boundaries on people who don’t know how to encourage the greatest level of love in us. Because when we truly have that kind of love in our lives we are increasingly a blessing to others. Which is why real love requires that we love ourselves in the right way, so we can have the strength to love, the wisdom to love, and the energy to love those who need our love the most.
Blessings,
Dr. Lisa Love
Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.
Why Real Love Requries Honesty
MAIN QUOTE
A lie will easily get you out of a scrape, and yet, strangely and beautifully, rapture possesses you when you have taken the scrape and left out the lie. ~Charles Edward Montague, Disenchantment
DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS
Recently, I picked up a great book, Act Like A Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey. Overall, I love the book except one part of it gave me pause and made me reflect. It was in the chapter about “Why Men Cheat” on their wives, girlfriends, etc. Harvey’s basic answers are: 1) They Can. 2) They Think They Can Get Away With It. 3) He Hasn’t Become Who He Wants and Needs to Be or Found Who He Truly Wants. 4) What’s Happening at Home Isn’t Happening Like it Used To. 5) There’s Always a Woman Out There Willing to Cheat With Him. And, ultimately he explains the man hasn’t got his priorities straight especially in having a real and meaningful spiritual practice in his life.
Ok. So far, so good. And, I also agree with what Harvey says regarding why a man is able to get away with his cheating and lying behavior with the women he is with. One reason this happens Harvey explains (using my paraphraze of what he says not his exact words now) is because any woman he is with hasn’t set high enough standards in her life to respect and love herself enough to see what is going on right in front of her and take a stand about it. She basically colludes in the notion that denial is good for you. After all, “What you don’t know won’t hurt you.” And, since her denial lets him get away with what he wants to, he is happy to join in on the denial party with her. But, denial is not good for you and it feeds one of my four major love myths I discuss in my Attracting Real Love course — love is blind. Wrong! Real love actually requires 20 - 20 vision because you only know how to really love yourself and others when you are seeing what you need to see clearly.
Which is why when I read this in Harvey’s book I decided I couldn’t disagree more. He says if a woman starts to catch on to a man’s cheating and lying behavior and starts to ask questions a man is going to just do more of his lying and denying game. Why? Harvey says men will do this “if we care about you. But, if not — if a man doesn’t see you fitting into his life plan — he won’t even bother with all of the covering up.” WHOA!!! Come on, Steve! I know the rest of your book also says that a man who really loves a woman won’t cheat, but let’s clear this up right now! Le’t not make it seem like somebody is cheating and hiding the truth from someone out of love. No way, no how!
So, why do we really lie? Plain and simple We’re afraid. Period. Why are we afraid? We don’t love ourselves or the people around us enough to live in truth. And, real love requires the truth. Not some blunt rude make people feel stupid and horrible version of truth. But, truth nonetheless! And, if you want proof of who has the most loving relationships going on between them? Well, it’s between people who can live in truth completely. They love and respect each other so much they want to be honest with them. They care about not hurting them. They care about being loved and respected in return for who they are flaws and all. And, they want a partner who can hear the truth and help bring it all into the realm of consciousness in a loving way and heal any fear in the realm of love. That means the more a couple lies to each other, the more they actually are in fear of each other, which means love really isn’t very present at all.
Now, why do we refuse to live in truth? It’s simple. We are thinking more about ourselves and coming from our egos. We simply don’t want to have to face the consequences of what we are doing and be forced to change our hurtful behaviors. We don’t want to feel bad about ourselves by having to see clearly what is really going on. Or, to share another quote, We tell lies when we are afraid… afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger. ~Tad Williams. In short, we are afraid to love and feed fear in our lives instead.
Ok, I don’t expect people to be perfect. But, try this on for size. Next time you catch yourself or other people telling lies ask yourself this, “What am I afraid of and how does this reflect a lack of love in myself or a lack of love regarding the people I am with?” Then, ask this, “What would it be like to love myself and others enough to be willing to take the scrape, instead of give one?”
Notice this as well. Despite what people say finding out the truth doesn’t hurt! What hurts is discovering how much there was a lack of love and how real love was replaced by deception and fear. Remember, real love heals it doesn’t hurt. And, though it may hurt to find out about lies, shedding them actually opens you up to attracting more real love in your life creating space for the rapture described in the main quote above — for yourself and the people around you.
Blessings,
Dr. Lisa Love
Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.
A lie will easily get you out of a scrape, and yet, strangely and beautifully, rapture possesses you when you have taken the scrape and left out the lie. ~Charles Edward Montague, Disenchantment
DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS
Recently, I picked up a great book, Act Like A Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey. Overall, I love the book except one part of it gave me pause and made me reflect. It was in the chapter about “Why Men Cheat” on their wives, girlfriends, etc. Harvey’s basic answers are: 1) They Can. 2) They Think They Can Get Away With It. 3) He Hasn’t Become Who He Wants and Needs to Be or Found Who He Truly Wants. 4) What’s Happening at Home Isn’t Happening Like it Used To. 5) There’s Always a Woman Out There Willing to Cheat With Him. And, ultimately he explains the man hasn’t got his priorities straight especially in having a real and meaningful spiritual practice in his life.
Ok. So far, so good. And, I also agree with what Harvey says regarding why a man is able to get away with his cheating and lying behavior with the women he is with. One reason this happens Harvey explains (using my paraphraze of what he says not his exact words now) is because any woman he is with hasn’t set high enough standards in her life to respect and love herself enough to see what is going on right in front of her and take a stand about it. She basically colludes in the notion that denial is good for you. After all, “What you don’t know won’t hurt you.” And, since her denial lets him get away with what he wants to, he is happy to join in on the denial party with her. But, denial is not good for you and it feeds one of my four major love myths I discuss in my Attracting Real Love course — love is blind. Wrong! Real love actually requires 20 - 20 vision because you only know how to really love yourself and others when you are seeing what you need to see clearly.
Which is why when I read this in Harvey’s book I decided I couldn’t disagree more. He says if a woman starts to catch on to a man’s cheating and lying behavior and starts to ask questions a man is going to just do more of his lying and denying game. Why? Harvey says men will do this “if we care about you. But, if not — if a man doesn’t see you fitting into his life plan — he won’t even bother with all of the covering up.” WHOA!!! Come on, Steve! I know the rest of your book also says that a man who really loves a woman won’t cheat, but let’s clear this up right now! Le’t not make it seem like somebody is cheating and hiding the truth from someone out of love. No way, no how!
So, why do we really lie? Plain and simple We’re afraid. Period. Why are we afraid? We don’t love ourselves or the people around us enough to live in truth. And, real love requires the truth. Not some blunt rude make people feel stupid and horrible version of truth. But, truth nonetheless! And, if you want proof of who has the most loving relationships going on between them? Well, it’s between people who can live in truth completely. They love and respect each other so much they want to be honest with them. They care about not hurting them. They care about being loved and respected in return for who they are flaws and all. And, they want a partner who can hear the truth and help bring it all into the realm of consciousness in a loving way and heal any fear in the realm of love. That means the more a couple lies to each other, the more they actually are in fear of each other, which means love really isn’t very present at all.
Now, why do we refuse to live in truth? It’s simple. We are thinking more about ourselves and coming from our egos. We simply don’t want to have to face the consequences of what we are doing and be forced to change our hurtful behaviors. We don’t want to feel bad about ourselves by having to see clearly what is really going on. Or, to share another quote, We tell lies when we are afraid… afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger. ~Tad Williams. In short, we are afraid to love and feed fear in our lives instead.
Ok, I don’t expect people to be perfect. But, try this on for size. Next time you catch yourself or other people telling lies ask yourself this, “What am I afraid of and how does this reflect a lack of love in myself or a lack of love regarding the people I am with?” Then, ask this, “What would it be like to love myself and others enough to be willing to take the scrape, instead of give one?”
Notice this as well. Despite what people say finding out the truth doesn’t hurt! What hurts is discovering how much there was a lack of love and how real love was replaced by deception and fear. Remember, real love heals it doesn’t hurt. And, though it may hurt to find out about lies, shedding them actually opens you up to attracting more real love in your life creating space for the rapture described in the main quote above — for yourself and the people around you.
Blessings,
Dr. Lisa Love
Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.
Thursday, 29 October 2009
Real Love: What is Real Love?
Most people would love to have "real love," yet often they have no idea what real love is. Take a moment to think about how you would define real love.
Defining love is like defining a particular color to a person who has never been able to see color - you have to feel it know what it is. The reason it is hard to define real love is because you cannot experience it with your mind, and definitions are of the mind. Real love is a feeling that is the result of your intention to BE LOVING.
This very different than the intention to BE LOVED. The desire to be loved comes from the ego wounded part of ourselves, the part that believes we need to get love from others in order to feel filled and worthy - that real love is something we get rather than something we are and something we share.
This is what creates the confusion regarding love.
Real love is what you are - what your soul is - a spark of the Divine within. Love is what God/Spirit is. When your deepest desire is to be loving to yourself and others, this desire opens your heart and you become filled with the love that is as ubiquitous as the air you breathe. This is real love - the experience of Spirit that fills the emptiness within and lets you know that you are never alone.
Real Love in a Relationship
What about real love with another person? How do we know when we are experiencing real love?
Real love is what we experience when two or more people come together with open hearts already filled with love, and the love from their hearts overflows as it is openly and joyously shared.
If you come to a relationship with a feeling of emptiness and unworthiness, you cannot experience real love. Real love is not the cake - it is the icing on the cake. The cake needs to be the love that comes through you from Spirit, and the icing is the love you share with another or others.
If you expect another's love to be the cake, then you will not experience real love, because you are coming from a closed heart and inner emptiness. REAL LOVE DOES NOT NEED ANYTHING FROM ANOTHER PERSON. It is like a waterfall flowing down inside from Spirit, filling the lake within and then flowing out in rivers and streams as it is shared others. However, when the heart is closed, then the lake is empty and becomes like a bottomless sinkhole, desperately attempting to suck love, attention and approval from others.
If you want to experience real love within a relationship, then you need to open - through your desire to BE LOVING - to unconditional love coming through you. You need to invite God-which-is-Love into your heart and become filled with it.
The challenge here is that you cannot desire to GET LOVE and BE LOVING at the same time. The intent to get love will always lead to a closed heart and controlling behavior, which shuts out love. The intent to be loving and to learn what is loving to yourself and others in any given moment is what opens the heart. When you choose the intent to be loving with yourself and others, you will experience real love.
Defining love is like defining a particular color to a person who has never been able to see color - you have to feel it know what it is. The reason it is hard to define real love is because you cannot experience it with your mind, and definitions are of the mind. Real love is a feeling that is the result of your intention to BE LOVING.
This very different than the intention to BE LOVED. The desire to be loved comes from the ego wounded part of ourselves, the part that believes we need to get love from others in order to feel filled and worthy - that real love is something we get rather than something we are and something we share.
This is what creates the confusion regarding love.
Real love is what you are - what your soul is - a spark of the Divine within. Love is what God/Spirit is. When your deepest desire is to be loving to yourself and others, this desire opens your heart and you become filled with the love that is as ubiquitous as the air you breathe. This is real love - the experience of Spirit that fills the emptiness within and lets you know that you are never alone.
Real Love in a Relationship
What about real love with another person? How do we know when we are experiencing real love?
Real love is what we experience when two or more people come together with open hearts already filled with love, and the love from their hearts overflows as it is openly and joyously shared.
If you come to a relationship with a feeling of emptiness and unworthiness, you cannot experience real love. Real love is not the cake - it is the icing on the cake. The cake needs to be the love that comes through you from Spirit, and the icing is the love you share with another or others.
If you expect another's love to be the cake, then you will not experience real love, because you are coming from a closed heart and inner emptiness. REAL LOVE DOES NOT NEED ANYTHING FROM ANOTHER PERSON. It is like a waterfall flowing down inside from Spirit, filling the lake within and then flowing out in rivers and streams as it is shared others. However, when the heart is closed, then the lake is empty and becomes like a bottomless sinkhole, desperately attempting to suck love, attention and approval from others.
If you want to experience real love within a relationship, then you need to open - through your desire to BE LOVING - to unconditional love coming through you. You need to invite God-which-is-Love into your heart and become filled with it.
The challenge here is that you cannot desire to GET LOVE and BE LOVING at the same time. The intent to get love will always lead to a closed heart and controlling behavior, which shuts out love. The intent to be loving and to learn what is loving to yourself and others in any given moment is what opens the heart. When you choose the intent to be loving with yourself and others, you will experience real love.
Happiness - Just How Do You Do It?
In one of my personal development workshops I get my students to close their eyes and imagine, in vivid detail, one of their happiest memories, and to fully re-living it in that moment. It is amazing to witness the instant transformation in their facial expressions and body language as their nervous systems kick back into happy mode. I then ask them what actually changed in the outside world while they were doing that. Of course the answer is nothing, but isn't it interesting how easily they were able to access deep feelings of joy without there having to be an outside cause?
When was the last time you felt really happy for no reason whatsoever?
The term 'The Human Race' is very apt because metaphorically speaking we seem to think of our happiness as being out there in front of us and that we must race to catch up with it. We use language like 'chasing our dreams', and 'the pursuit of happiness', which on the surface seems like very exciting things to be involved in, but it also presupposes that happiness is somewhere off in the distance and that we are lagging behind. We immerse ourselves in an "I'll be happy when..." mentality, in which we are convinced that happiness will arrive in the form of that next promotion, or the bigger house, the perfect relationship, or that lottery win.
We also tend to think of happiness as being an 'it' - a something that has a form - like one day there will be a knock at the door and the FedEx guy will say "Hi, who's gonna to sign for this box of happiness?"
But look at a child. Children are much smarter than adults when it comes to being happy. For them it is just a state of being. They don't place conditions on when they will and when they won't feel it. As long as they're not hungry, in pain, or being told off, they are happy. It's their default program. And it is meant to be your default program too. The thing is, at some stage in a child's development they start copying what the adults do. They buy into our cultural idea that, actually, you can't just have your happiness, you have to earn it. You have to prove that you are worthy of it. If you work hard enough at working hard then one day just might get lots of nice things that will 'make' you happy, but you have to deserve it.
Of course we all know what happiness feels like, and we do encounter many happy times throughout our lives - marriages, births, birthdays, holidays, parties... It can even take us by surprise sometimes, like when you are out in nature and suddenly you are filled with a strong and comforting sense of connectedness with the world around you. This kind of happiness is great, but it is a fair weather friend; it comes when the going is good and shoots off again when the party is over. But a lot of people settle for it because they're promised to a more permanent kind of happiness - they just have to wait for the future to arrive!
The real truth about happiness is that do not have to wait for it happen to you. You do not have to be in the right place at the right time. You do not have to keep gambling with life until it comes knocking at your door. You have all the resources you need already within you to turn it on at will. It's like a switch. If you are stood in a darkened room you have the choice to flick the switch and turn the light on, but in order to do that you must first know that the switch is there and that you have the ability to control it.
Your happiness switch is exactly the same. You must recognise that it there for you to use at any moment and that you can control it with the belief that it is only ever your thoughts and attitudes that light up your world.
Happiness brings with it the kind of creativity, openness and clarity that makes any task seem almost effortless. Work stops feeling like work as soon as you go about your business with a genuine inner smile. But why do most people find this so hard to do?
It's because somewhere along the line we learned that we cannot be truly happy unless there is a reason to be happy. We introduce criteria that must be met before we will allow ourselves to let happiness in and feel ok about having it. Some people have even learned to attach guilt to their happiness. "Why should I feel happy while others still suffer?"
There's a very quirky thing about us humans, and that is that we can become very suspicious of other people who do not appear to have a good enough reason for their blatant displays of happiness. Whenever someone asks how I am I will usually say something like "I'm great" or "fantastic", to which the next question is often "Why, what's up?" I'll say "Nothing, I just feel good", and then enjoy the confused look on their face as they let out a slow "Riiiiiiiiight!"
The thing that really throws a spanner in the works of the common belief about happiness is that actually you can have it whenever you want it, and you don't have to do a thing to earn it. Because 'it' isn't an 'it' at all, it's a function of the human condition that serves a very practical purpose. As Michael Neil would put it, to ask if you deserve happiness is like asking if you deserve a nose. "Well....eeerrrrr.... I have a nose, but I don't know what I've done to deserve it". It sounds silly, doesn't it?
The key to having your happiness now rather than later is to know that happiness is not something that happens to you, it is something that you do. You must let go of the idea that happiness is a reward for good behaviour or that you must be worthy of it. You must also accept that your happiness is not on that ship that you're waiting on to come in. It is the ocean in which the ship sails, so if you want it, dive in and learn how to swim. In other words, your life is your happiness and you just need to start responding more happily towards it.
Numerous scientific studies into whether success leads to happiness shows that there is no quantifiable evidence to suggest that it does. What has been highlighted though, is that people who already experience high levels of happiness are significantly more likely to become successful later. Interesting! Happiness leads to success, not the other way around. Who'd have thought?
What this tells us is that genuine authentic happiness is unconditional. It is not out there. It is in here, and always has been. Happiness is only ever the result of your attitude and your behaviour, and learning to nurture it unconditionally gives you much more than just a good feeling; it makes your whole life run a lot smoother. That's nature's plan.
The only reason you ever need to be happy is that it allows you to get things done in a really efficient way. The most successful people learn to master the simple notion of being happy in the moment, not just because it feels good, but because being happy puts them into their most resourceful and productive state. I consider happiness to be a vital tool in the work I do because I am committed to producing the best quality output I am capable of. I know I can only achieve that if I am in a happy mood. Whether I'm running a workshop, writing an article, recording some audio, or coaching someone one on one, I will always spend a few moments up front getting myself into a happy frame of mind, because that's how I need to be for my best work to come out. Things just seem to flow better, I'm more creative, I see the bigger picture, and here's the really interesting bit, I encounter fewer obstacles.
I have spent countless hours studying the different philosophies about what happiness is and, while the various teachings use different kinds of language and terminology, they all agree that happiness does not wait on time, it waits on welcome. You may as well just open the door and let it in because it's already here, just waiting for your invitation.
"But hang on a minute, Paul. Surely it's unrealistic to be happy all the time. What about when you really do have problems. Sometimes, things just piss you off. That's life!"
Absolutely, life happens, and it doesn't always happen the way we want it to. It is the most natural thing in the world to feel unhappy, angry or sad in certain circumstances, and it is right and proper that we do feel that sometimes. But the problem comes when we habituate into these negative feelings; when being pissed off or grumpy becomes your standard response to most things.
There is nothing that you can achieve in an agitated frame of mind that you cannot do better with happiness.
There are two things you can choose to do to enjoy feeling more happiness more often.
1. WORK ON YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Just like happiness, all feelings have a practical purpose, even the bad ones. They are signals from you unconscious mind as to whether or not life is happening the way you want it to. Bad moods are not designed to just give you the experience of feeling miserable. If you listen closely to what they are telling you then you will always be able to find a much quicker route back to happiness. Negative emotions are like the warning lights on the dashboard of you car. They are a call to action. When the petrol light comes on, that is not a signal for your car to become depressed, it is a sign that action needs to be taken to get fuel. When you add more petrol the light goes out. The moment you bring your conscious attention to the cause of the feeling, and realise what actions needs to be taken to redress the balance, then its job is done. It no longer serves any useful purpose.
It is critical to acknowledge all of your feelings and not to mask them with a fake happiness. If you just cover them up with a painted-on smile then their simmer will turn into a boil and eventually the pot will overflow. Remember, they have a message they want you to know about, so stop and take the time to listen. Ask yourself, "Why might I be feeling like this in this situation? What is it trying to suggest?" And it's important to focus on the areas in which you have an element of control. It is no good to say "Well, it's suggesting that Bob is a pillock!" Get clear about the steps that will lead you away from frustration and toward a solution that feels better. As soon as you get an answer then exercise whatever control you have and decide to let go of the negativity around it. Ask yourself the question, "Now that I know what to do to sort this out, is it possible and acceptable for me to do it happily?" You'll be surprised how easy it is when you are willing.
2. GET TO KNOW THE PHYSIOLOGY OF HAPPINESS
Happiness has two parts: the internal experience of joy and the physical aliveness in your body. You've probably noticed that when you are down your body language becomes an outward symbol of how you feel inside. It becomes slouched, tensed and heavy and lacks signs of energy. When you are happy you stand taller and have a more open airy posture. Often the quickest way out of a negative mood is simply to move and adopt a more empowering body language. This sends a very clear signal to your brain that it is time to start feeling happier. Try this out for yourself the next time you are being a bit of a grump. Stand up straight, stick your chest out, and put a deliberate smile on your face. Your nervous system can only respond in a positive way to this kind of instruction from your physiology, that's just the way we work!
When was the last time you felt really happy for no reason whatsoever?
The term 'The Human Race' is very apt because metaphorically speaking we seem to think of our happiness as being out there in front of us and that we must race to catch up with it. We use language like 'chasing our dreams', and 'the pursuit of happiness', which on the surface seems like very exciting things to be involved in, but it also presupposes that happiness is somewhere off in the distance and that we are lagging behind. We immerse ourselves in an "I'll be happy when..." mentality, in which we are convinced that happiness will arrive in the form of that next promotion, or the bigger house, the perfect relationship, or that lottery win.
We also tend to think of happiness as being an 'it' - a something that has a form - like one day there will be a knock at the door and the FedEx guy will say "Hi, who's gonna to sign for this box of happiness?"
But look at a child. Children are much smarter than adults when it comes to being happy. For them it is just a state of being. They don't place conditions on when they will and when they won't feel it. As long as they're not hungry, in pain, or being told off, they are happy. It's their default program. And it is meant to be your default program too. The thing is, at some stage in a child's development they start copying what the adults do. They buy into our cultural idea that, actually, you can't just have your happiness, you have to earn it. You have to prove that you are worthy of it. If you work hard enough at working hard then one day just might get lots of nice things that will 'make' you happy, but you have to deserve it.
Of course we all know what happiness feels like, and we do encounter many happy times throughout our lives - marriages, births, birthdays, holidays, parties... It can even take us by surprise sometimes, like when you are out in nature and suddenly you are filled with a strong and comforting sense of connectedness with the world around you. This kind of happiness is great, but it is a fair weather friend; it comes when the going is good and shoots off again when the party is over. But a lot of people settle for it because they're promised to a more permanent kind of happiness - they just have to wait for the future to arrive!
The real truth about happiness is that do not have to wait for it happen to you. You do not have to be in the right place at the right time. You do not have to keep gambling with life until it comes knocking at your door. You have all the resources you need already within you to turn it on at will. It's like a switch. If you are stood in a darkened room you have the choice to flick the switch and turn the light on, but in order to do that you must first know that the switch is there and that you have the ability to control it.
Your happiness switch is exactly the same. You must recognise that it there for you to use at any moment and that you can control it with the belief that it is only ever your thoughts and attitudes that light up your world.
Happiness brings with it the kind of creativity, openness and clarity that makes any task seem almost effortless. Work stops feeling like work as soon as you go about your business with a genuine inner smile. But why do most people find this so hard to do?
It's because somewhere along the line we learned that we cannot be truly happy unless there is a reason to be happy. We introduce criteria that must be met before we will allow ourselves to let happiness in and feel ok about having it. Some people have even learned to attach guilt to their happiness. "Why should I feel happy while others still suffer?"
There's a very quirky thing about us humans, and that is that we can become very suspicious of other people who do not appear to have a good enough reason for their blatant displays of happiness. Whenever someone asks how I am I will usually say something like "I'm great" or "fantastic", to which the next question is often "Why, what's up?" I'll say "Nothing, I just feel good", and then enjoy the confused look on their face as they let out a slow "Riiiiiiiiight!"
The thing that really throws a spanner in the works of the common belief about happiness is that actually you can have it whenever you want it, and you don't have to do a thing to earn it. Because 'it' isn't an 'it' at all, it's a function of the human condition that serves a very practical purpose. As Michael Neil would put it, to ask if you deserve happiness is like asking if you deserve a nose. "Well....eeerrrrr.... I have a nose, but I don't know what I've done to deserve it". It sounds silly, doesn't it?
The key to having your happiness now rather than later is to know that happiness is not something that happens to you, it is something that you do. You must let go of the idea that happiness is a reward for good behaviour or that you must be worthy of it. You must also accept that your happiness is not on that ship that you're waiting on to come in. It is the ocean in which the ship sails, so if you want it, dive in and learn how to swim. In other words, your life is your happiness and you just need to start responding more happily towards it.
Numerous scientific studies into whether success leads to happiness shows that there is no quantifiable evidence to suggest that it does. What has been highlighted though, is that people who already experience high levels of happiness are significantly more likely to become successful later. Interesting! Happiness leads to success, not the other way around. Who'd have thought?
What this tells us is that genuine authentic happiness is unconditional. It is not out there. It is in here, and always has been. Happiness is only ever the result of your attitude and your behaviour, and learning to nurture it unconditionally gives you much more than just a good feeling; it makes your whole life run a lot smoother. That's nature's plan.
The only reason you ever need to be happy is that it allows you to get things done in a really efficient way. The most successful people learn to master the simple notion of being happy in the moment, not just because it feels good, but because being happy puts them into their most resourceful and productive state. I consider happiness to be a vital tool in the work I do because I am committed to producing the best quality output I am capable of. I know I can only achieve that if I am in a happy mood. Whether I'm running a workshop, writing an article, recording some audio, or coaching someone one on one, I will always spend a few moments up front getting myself into a happy frame of mind, because that's how I need to be for my best work to come out. Things just seem to flow better, I'm more creative, I see the bigger picture, and here's the really interesting bit, I encounter fewer obstacles.
I have spent countless hours studying the different philosophies about what happiness is and, while the various teachings use different kinds of language and terminology, they all agree that happiness does not wait on time, it waits on welcome. You may as well just open the door and let it in because it's already here, just waiting for your invitation.
"But hang on a minute, Paul. Surely it's unrealistic to be happy all the time. What about when you really do have problems. Sometimes, things just piss you off. That's life!"
Absolutely, life happens, and it doesn't always happen the way we want it to. It is the most natural thing in the world to feel unhappy, angry or sad in certain circumstances, and it is right and proper that we do feel that sometimes. But the problem comes when we habituate into these negative feelings; when being pissed off or grumpy becomes your standard response to most things.
There is nothing that you can achieve in an agitated frame of mind that you cannot do better with happiness.
There are two things you can choose to do to enjoy feeling more happiness more often.
1. WORK ON YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Just like happiness, all feelings have a practical purpose, even the bad ones. They are signals from you unconscious mind as to whether or not life is happening the way you want it to. Bad moods are not designed to just give you the experience of feeling miserable. If you listen closely to what they are telling you then you will always be able to find a much quicker route back to happiness. Negative emotions are like the warning lights on the dashboard of you car. They are a call to action. When the petrol light comes on, that is not a signal for your car to become depressed, it is a sign that action needs to be taken to get fuel. When you add more petrol the light goes out. The moment you bring your conscious attention to the cause of the feeling, and realise what actions needs to be taken to redress the balance, then its job is done. It no longer serves any useful purpose.
It is critical to acknowledge all of your feelings and not to mask them with a fake happiness. If you just cover them up with a painted-on smile then their simmer will turn into a boil and eventually the pot will overflow. Remember, they have a message they want you to know about, so stop and take the time to listen. Ask yourself, "Why might I be feeling like this in this situation? What is it trying to suggest?" And it's important to focus on the areas in which you have an element of control. It is no good to say "Well, it's suggesting that Bob is a pillock!" Get clear about the steps that will lead you away from frustration and toward a solution that feels better. As soon as you get an answer then exercise whatever control you have and decide to let go of the negativity around it. Ask yourself the question, "Now that I know what to do to sort this out, is it possible and acceptable for me to do it happily?" You'll be surprised how easy it is when you are willing.
2. GET TO KNOW THE PHYSIOLOGY OF HAPPINESS
Happiness has two parts: the internal experience of joy and the physical aliveness in your body. You've probably noticed that when you are down your body language becomes an outward symbol of how you feel inside. It becomes slouched, tensed and heavy and lacks signs of energy. When you are happy you stand taller and have a more open airy posture. Often the quickest way out of a negative mood is simply to move and adopt a more empowering body language. This sends a very clear signal to your brain that it is time to start feeling happier. Try this out for yourself the next time you are being a bit of a grump. Stand up straight, stick your chest out, and put a deliberate smile on your face. Your nervous system can only respond in a positive way to this kind of instruction from your physiology, that's just the way we work!
Sunday, 25 October 2009
5 Proven Methods to Quickly Save Your Long Distance Relationship
All relationships need work to keep them going, even if your partner lives right around the corner. But when you have lots of miles, or states, or even an ocean that separates you, it can make the relationship difficult to survive. Fortunately, successful long distance relationships can work. Here’s how to learn how to make your long distance relationships work too.
* It’s an absolute must to talk EVERY day. You need to communicate in any way you can - everyday. More than once if it’s possible. This helps keep the emotional connection together.
* You should set up phone dates. This is just as important as a regular face to face dates. You both have to take this seriously. When you have your phone date, make sure all of your concentration is on your partner.
* Share time together on the internet. Get a game that can be played together on the internet. You can chat while playing and this will help keep the feeling of togetherness alive.
* Use the mail to send each other scented clothes. The power of smell can keep the intimacy between you growing, and build anticipation to see each other as soon as possible.
* Both of you should get a webcam. There’s nothing better than to see each other while you chat. Just to see his or her smiling face will do wonders for the both of you.
These are but a few things you should do to keep long distance relationships going in the right direction. But keep in mind that all relationships need work.
Finding out that your partner has cheated on you, or has had sex with someone else could happen. By following the points given here, you will help prevent any of that happening to you.
* It’s an absolute must to talk EVERY day. You need to communicate in any way you can - everyday. More than once if it’s possible. This helps keep the emotional connection together.
* You should set up phone dates. This is just as important as a regular face to face dates. You both have to take this seriously. When you have your phone date, make sure all of your concentration is on your partner.
* Share time together on the internet. Get a game that can be played together on the internet. You can chat while playing and this will help keep the feeling of togetherness alive.
* Use the mail to send each other scented clothes. The power of smell can keep the intimacy between you growing, and build anticipation to see each other as soon as possible.
* Both of you should get a webcam. There’s nothing better than to see each other while you chat. Just to see his or her smiling face will do wonders for the both of you.
These are but a few things you should do to keep long distance relationships going in the right direction. But keep in mind that all relationships need work.
Finding out that your partner has cheated on you, or has had sex with someone else could happen. By following the points given here, you will help prevent any of that happening to you.
10 Dating Tips For Guys
Dating has been observed lately as more relaxed and informal. As a part of the male species, this is a sign that dating has opened its doors for you. Now, dating would be less difficult to do. To make thing easier for you, here are the 10 Dating tips for guys. Read on.
Tip #1: Try to look your best.
Remember that a date, especially the first date, is the time for fist impressions, which they say, will last forever. Try to achieve a cool, confident look by knowing what to wear. The casual look is the first choice of many, but it really depends on the clothes that you are comfortable wearing. Be it a t-shirt, polo or jacket, what matters most is the fact that it is ironed and not wrinkly, has zero dirt stains and looks perfectly good on you. Now that you have an idea on what to wear, let's go to the scent.
According to dating experts, a guy's smell will either increase your points or turn-off a girl. Be it a cologne or perfume; make sure to spray on the right amount and at the right places! Spray a moderate amount on the sides of your necks, wrist and chest. Brush your teeth, style your hair (or get a descent haircut), bring a handkerchief (especially when you're eating out), cut your nails and check your face in the mirror. Now, you're ready to go!
Tip#2: Be on time.
Patience may be a virtue, but being late is rude and a sign of being uninterested. Have a list of "things to do" to be aware of time. If the girl is late, try telling her to make up for it by buying you a drink, bit in a teasing and gentle voice.
Tip#3: Find the best place.
You and your date should agree where to go beforehand. As an alpha male take control and have a plan where to meet. Suggest a coffee shop, the fair or even a local eatery that is cheap but serves good food. If it seems that the two of you have different ideas, try to compromise. Let her decide and the next date will be yours. Just remember to find a place where the two of will be comfortable while having fun at the same time.
Tip#4: Mind your manners.
All the things that your mom taught you about etiquettes are helpful during a date. Show her that you are a gentleman by opening the door car, pulling a chair for her to sit down. Use your utensils properly and eat with grace. Believe me; all of these will matter to her.
Tip#5: Make sure you can spit good game.
Nobody likes a boring date, so make an effort to communicate with her. Remember that you are not here to impress her, but to get to know each other. Ask her questions and let her ask you the same things. Say the right thing at the right place. If it's your first date, then try avoiding topics like your ex, her ex, politics and other embarrassing questions.
Tip#6: Be spontaneous.
The best dating tip for guys that I can give is to be spontaneous. Don't be too conscious and keep thinking about what will happen next. Stop asking yourself if she's having fun.
Be laid back and most of all be relaxed. Everything will fall into places, as long as the two of you are having fun.
Tip#7: The payment method.
Usually, the men pay the bill. But there are always instances where girls prefer to shoulder the expense. On a first date never take her to the fine restaurant and spend gobs of cash. A cup of coffee and a cheap lunch is the way to go. When the bill comes just say, "Don't worry I got it's no big deal". You only take your girlfriend to a nice restaurant and even then only take her once and awhile.
Tip#8: Make the Best of your date.
Every date should be memorable, so try to make the best out of it. How to do it depends on you and your girl. Make her feel special, as it will guarantee a follow-up date.
Tip#9: The Kissing game.
Now, here's the most asked dating tip for guys, should I kiss my date? The answer still lays on you, my friend. You must look for some signals she may be transmitting such as; she's looking at you with an intense gaze, she licks her lips while looking at you, she laughs as everything you say, or she does the hair toss. These are all signs she is interested and a kiss is right around the corner.
Tip#10: The Phone Call.
There are some rules that say you should wait two days. There is nothing wrong in calling her the following day but don't make a big deal out of it. As a confident man you move through life at your pace. As far as what to talk about simply pick up from the last conversation you had with her the day before so it's still fresh in her mind.
Tip #1: Try to look your best.
Remember that a date, especially the first date, is the time for fist impressions, which they say, will last forever. Try to achieve a cool, confident look by knowing what to wear. The casual look is the first choice of many, but it really depends on the clothes that you are comfortable wearing. Be it a t-shirt, polo or jacket, what matters most is the fact that it is ironed and not wrinkly, has zero dirt stains and looks perfectly good on you. Now that you have an idea on what to wear, let's go to the scent.
According to dating experts, a guy's smell will either increase your points or turn-off a girl. Be it a cologne or perfume; make sure to spray on the right amount and at the right places! Spray a moderate amount on the sides of your necks, wrist and chest. Brush your teeth, style your hair (or get a descent haircut), bring a handkerchief (especially when you're eating out), cut your nails and check your face in the mirror. Now, you're ready to go!
Tip#2: Be on time.
Patience may be a virtue, but being late is rude and a sign of being uninterested. Have a list of "things to do" to be aware of time. If the girl is late, try telling her to make up for it by buying you a drink, bit in a teasing and gentle voice.
Tip#3: Find the best place.
You and your date should agree where to go beforehand. As an alpha male take control and have a plan where to meet. Suggest a coffee shop, the fair or even a local eatery that is cheap but serves good food. If it seems that the two of you have different ideas, try to compromise. Let her decide and the next date will be yours. Just remember to find a place where the two of will be comfortable while having fun at the same time.
Tip#4: Mind your manners.
All the things that your mom taught you about etiquettes are helpful during a date. Show her that you are a gentleman by opening the door car, pulling a chair for her to sit down. Use your utensils properly and eat with grace. Believe me; all of these will matter to her.
Tip#5: Make sure you can spit good game.
Nobody likes a boring date, so make an effort to communicate with her. Remember that you are not here to impress her, but to get to know each other. Ask her questions and let her ask you the same things. Say the right thing at the right place. If it's your first date, then try avoiding topics like your ex, her ex, politics and other embarrassing questions.
Tip#6: Be spontaneous.
The best dating tip for guys that I can give is to be spontaneous. Don't be too conscious and keep thinking about what will happen next. Stop asking yourself if she's having fun.
Be laid back and most of all be relaxed. Everything will fall into places, as long as the two of you are having fun.
Tip#7: The payment method.
Usually, the men pay the bill. But there are always instances where girls prefer to shoulder the expense. On a first date never take her to the fine restaurant and spend gobs of cash. A cup of coffee and a cheap lunch is the way to go. When the bill comes just say, "Don't worry I got it's no big deal". You only take your girlfriend to a nice restaurant and even then only take her once and awhile.
Tip#8: Make the Best of your date.
Every date should be memorable, so try to make the best out of it. How to do it depends on you and your girl. Make her feel special, as it will guarantee a follow-up date.
Tip#9: The Kissing game.
Now, here's the most asked dating tip for guys, should I kiss my date? The answer still lays on you, my friend. You must look for some signals she may be transmitting such as; she's looking at you with an intense gaze, she licks her lips while looking at you, she laughs as everything you say, or she does the hair toss. These are all signs she is interested and a kiss is right around the corner.
Tip#10: The Phone Call.
There are some rules that say you should wait two days. There is nothing wrong in calling her the following day but don't make a big deal out of it. As a confident man you move through life at your pace. As far as what to talk about simply pick up from the last conversation you had with her the day before so it's still fresh in her mind.
Tuesday, 20 October 2009
Flirting Tips for Shy Girls: 3 Simple Ways To Flirt With Any Guy In Any Situation
Ever the wallflower when it comes to parties and social gatherings? Don’t you just wish you could actually make any guy fall head over heels for you? Fortunately, it’s not too late to change yourself as long as you learn a few flirting tips for shy girls.
These flirting tips for shy girls will help you become a more empowered woman. All you need is a little push in the right direction and you’ll no longer have to spend the night sulking miserably in one corner.
Flirting Tips for Shy Girls # 1: Start Slow.
It’s best to begin with baby steps. Don’t force yourself to act like a diva on your next night out. You might end up embarrassing yourself.
Start with perfecting your smile first. If you’re assigned to a table, try smiling at those sitting next to you. Maintain eye contact and hold your smile a little longer for the guy you’re interested in.
Don’t panic if they don’t reciprocate the same level of interest you’re giving. You’d be surprised to know that most of them are just as shy as you are.
Flirting Tips for Shy Girls # 2: Make Yourself Approachable.
Smiling also makes you look more approachable to guys in general. If you find it difficult to make the first move, your dazzling smile will handle that situation for you.
Don’t just stand in a corner either. If there is a buffet table, help yourself to a few portions. The buffet table is always a great place to start conversations.
When a guy falls in line behind you, why not ask him about the catering service, such as “Have you tried the punch yet? I heard it’s really delicious!” Guys are really into girls who can not only initiate a conversation but hold one up as well.
Flirting Tips for Shy Girls # 3: Communicate With Gestures.
Subtle signals like flipping your hair can drive a man wild. Just don’t overdo it though. Flip your hair as elegantly as you can.
Also, you can try touching his hand or arms briefly as if to express a point. Being in close proximity with another man also conveys that you’re into him. Just don’t invade his personal space too much.
These flirting tips for shy girls are designed for beginners. There’s nothing wrong with that because these tips actually form the foundation of your growing confidence. Once you have mastered these moves and conversation starters, you’ll be more comfortable dabbing into the more advanced flirting moves.
These flirting tips for shy girls will help you become a more empowered woman. All you need is a little push in the right direction and you’ll no longer have to spend the night sulking miserably in one corner.
Flirting Tips for Shy Girls # 1: Start Slow.
It’s best to begin with baby steps. Don’t force yourself to act like a diva on your next night out. You might end up embarrassing yourself.
Start with perfecting your smile first. If you’re assigned to a table, try smiling at those sitting next to you. Maintain eye contact and hold your smile a little longer for the guy you’re interested in.
Don’t panic if they don’t reciprocate the same level of interest you’re giving. You’d be surprised to know that most of them are just as shy as you are.
Flirting Tips for Shy Girls # 2: Make Yourself Approachable.
Smiling also makes you look more approachable to guys in general. If you find it difficult to make the first move, your dazzling smile will handle that situation for you.
Don’t just stand in a corner either. If there is a buffet table, help yourself to a few portions. The buffet table is always a great place to start conversations.
When a guy falls in line behind you, why not ask him about the catering service, such as “Have you tried the punch yet? I heard it’s really delicious!” Guys are really into girls who can not only initiate a conversation but hold one up as well.
Flirting Tips for Shy Girls # 3: Communicate With Gestures.
Subtle signals like flipping your hair can drive a man wild. Just don’t overdo it though. Flip your hair as elegantly as you can.
Also, you can try touching his hand or arms briefly as if to express a point. Being in close proximity with another man also conveys that you’re into him. Just don’t invade his personal space too much.
These flirting tips for shy girls are designed for beginners. There’s nothing wrong with that because these tips actually form the foundation of your growing confidence. Once you have mastered these moves and conversation starters, you’ll be more comfortable dabbing into the more advanced flirting moves.
Monday, 19 October 2009
Dating Advice During My Teen Years
So, I sought the advice of my father. He told me that there were norms that were followed about dating during his teenage years. In his generation, girls were modest, sweet things and easy to please. They laugh at your corny jokes. You're a gentleman with good intentions if you open the door for them, or pay the dinner bill. I could not comprehend him, but I realized that dating now is more complex than during his time.
I learned that through the years, it is still the same, one can't get enough dating advice. Everyone's dream is to find the perfect partner, but this is not going to happen. However, there are various means to find your soulmate. You can do this by getting help from a dating coach who will give you the dating advice that you need for a reasonable fee. It is worth it if they answer all your questions on dating.
There are many available professional dating coaches on dating/personal online. Can these dating coaches help you, find a partner for you. Take it from me, they did for me. I have the love of my life now through the online dating site. I met my love via the Internet and it was a match made in heaven. As I said earlier, don't look for the perfect one, but the right one, one who would match your needs.
We chatted and emailed each other online for at least a month before we met each other. We found out that we were truthful to each other, so we know what to expect from one another. If it happened to me, it can also happen to you.
Dating coaches online is effective. Right from the very beginning when you avail yourself of the dating advice online, know what you want. Is it a long time relationship, a casual or discreet one or someone for amusement? What do you want, looks or character? There are many dating sites to choose from. Get the one that will satisfy your needs.
Even single parents are helped by some dating sites online. Believe me, what really matters is that whatever dating advice you get from the dating coach, honesty is the best posture to take for yourself or for the one you are looking for so that you will not be disappointed in one another.
Dating is something which takes time to develop between two individuals, so get advice and put in the needed work to find that someone special.
I learned that through the years, it is still the same, one can't get enough dating advice. Everyone's dream is to find the perfect partner, but this is not going to happen. However, there are various means to find your soulmate. You can do this by getting help from a dating coach who will give you the dating advice that you need for a reasonable fee. It is worth it if they answer all your questions on dating.
There are many available professional dating coaches on dating/personal online. Can these dating coaches help you, find a partner for you. Take it from me, they did for me. I have the love of my life now through the online dating site. I met my love via the Internet and it was a match made in heaven. As I said earlier, don't look for the perfect one, but the right one, one who would match your needs.
We chatted and emailed each other online for at least a month before we met each other. We found out that we were truthful to each other, so we know what to expect from one another. If it happened to me, it can also happen to you.
Dating coaches online is effective. Right from the very beginning when you avail yourself of the dating advice online, know what you want. Is it a long time relationship, a casual or discreet one or someone for amusement? What do you want, looks or character? There are many dating sites to choose from. Get the one that will satisfy your needs.
Even single parents are helped by some dating sites online. Believe me, what really matters is that whatever dating advice you get from the dating coach, honesty is the best posture to take for yourself or for the one you are looking for so that you will not be disappointed in one another.
Dating is something which takes time to develop between two individuals, so get advice and put in the needed work to find that someone special.
Tuesday, 29 September 2009
The Dance of Romance
February is the month of love. It even includes an entire day that is set aside simply for the purpose of making grand gestures of romance and love. Valentine’s Day has been around for centuries.
One story of the origin of Valentine’s Day dates back to the 3rd century AD. Father Valentine, a Roman priest, defied what he believed was an unjust law of his day that forbade marriage and secretly married young lovers. For this he was sentenced to death, was martyred two centuries later and became one of the most popular saints of France and Italy.
LOVE
This thing called love receives more and more notice in most every area of life. Spiritual traditions have long claimed love to be at the core of healing and happiness. Philosophers have written of three types of love called eros, agape and philia. Medical research has produced scientific findings that love improves our health – it changes us on a cellular level, enhances our immune and cardiovascular systems, and increases our endorphins. A recent Oprah show highlighted a group of middle aged women who attributed their vitality and success to doing what they love. And the Law of Attraction that is rapidly gaining attention identifies love as a high energy emotion that transforms not only the “lover” but those near and far. As well it has the greatest attraction power of any energy.
ROMANCE
Since this is February I want to talk about the love celebrated in February, love that is distinguished by the “Big R word” - Romance. As I write this I am reminded that I don’t hear or read very much anymore about romance, except for a week or two around Valentine’s Day. I think something is amiss. Who doesn’t, if you are truly honest with yourself, desire more romance in your life?
Think of it. Romance is romance because of an array of delicious qualities such as genuine curiosity, adoring attention, expression of deep affection and passionate emotional involvement. Pretty good so far, don’t you think? There’s more. Romance is filled with charm and excitement. There is play, intense pleasure, profound interest and adoration. In romance one’s best self naturally shines forth, as well as the ability to see the magnificence in another. As I expect you know, there is a great deal of energy in romance – energy of vitality, passion and aliveness. Now I ask you again, “Who wouldn’t want more of that?” If you’re counting, count me in.
HOW TO HAVE MORE
The next question becomes “how?” Before answering this question, I want to remind you that any “great” relationship requires several things, one of which is romance. Now let’s get back to the question at hand, “What does it take to have more romance in my relationships?” First, let’s go back to the wisdom of Saint Valentine. He followed his heart not the dictates of something he didn’t believe in. So follow the desires of your heart, rather than the commands of “shoulds.” Second, choose to “become the Cupid in your own life.” Cupid, the Roman winged god of love, who shot his arrows of desire into unsuspecting persons has long been a symbol for Valentine’s Day. As Cupid, you get to shoot your arrows wherever you want. What relationship in your life would you like infused with more romance?
There is the obvious area of intimate relationships, whether with a long term partner or spouse, someone you are dating, or maybe even someone you are interested in but haven’t yet let them know. Is there still romance in your marriage or long term relationship? If yes, be grateful for it every day and keep doing what you’re doing that keeps romance alive. If not, let this month of love be the month to reclaim and re-ignite the playful, passionate aliveness of romance with some gesture that lets your partner know that you “see” and adore them. You can even do this with someone you are dating or begin with someone you are interested in. And there is always the long-stemmed red rose, ever the symbol of love and romance. Whatever you do, do it authentically - put your playful, thoughtful, passionate heart in it!
What about your business or career? Might it be time to start romancing your work or your business? Spend some time here with your full attention, appreciation and curiosity. What is one passionate action that would create a spark in this area of your life? Do that by Valentine’s Day. What is the particular charm or uniqueness of your work or business, even if dormant right now? Highlight that in your planning and next steps.
There are many relationships in your life that could be transformed by a little romance besides those I already mentioned – even those with money and time for starters. They all have one common denominator - You. Maybe now is the time to start some “serious” romancing of yourself? How much adoring attention, genuine curiosity and profound interest do you have for you? When was the last time you took time to “see” who you really are and what’s most important to you, or consciously gifted yourself with pleasure? Please take out your calendar and highlight an evening or an afternoon during the week of Valentine’s Day that you will treat yourself to a romantic date with “you” to do, be or have whatever strikes your romantic fantasy. And then, make it a habit.
THE THREE M’S OF ROMANCE
Romance requires that you take time, slow down and pay attention. And if romance strikes your fancy, remember that what you give your attention to grows stronger in your life.
I want to leave you with the three “M’s” of Romance – magic, mystery & miracles. These have to be present for real romance to occur. While science continually strives to “know” and find answers to or reasons for everything in life, I invite you to also allow for magic, mystery & miracles which provide much of the spice in life and the romance in love. Make sure to invite these into the Dance of Romance!
Enjoy this month, and beyond, of romance. And remember, You are a natural! You are brilliant! You are magnificent! Simply by being you. Let your light shine!
If you’d like to speak with me about connecting with your passion and creating a life and business you love, call today for a 30 - minute complimentary consultation @ 617-524-6153.
One story of the origin of Valentine’s Day dates back to the 3rd century AD. Father Valentine, a Roman priest, defied what he believed was an unjust law of his day that forbade marriage and secretly married young lovers. For this he was sentenced to death, was martyred two centuries later and became one of the most popular saints of France and Italy.
LOVE
This thing called love receives more and more notice in most every area of life. Spiritual traditions have long claimed love to be at the core of healing and happiness. Philosophers have written of three types of love called eros, agape and philia. Medical research has produced scientific findings that love improves our health – it changes us on a cellular level, enhances our immune and cardiovascular systems, and increases our endorphins. A recent Oprah show highlighted a group of middle aged women who attributed their vitality and success to doing what they love. And the Law of Attraction that is rapidly gaining attention identifies love as a high energy emotion that transforms not only the “lover” but those near and far. As well it has the greatest attraction power of any energy.
ROMANCE
Since this is February I want to talk about the love celebrated in February, love that is distinguished by the “Big R word” - Romance. As I write this I am reminded that I don’t hear or read very much anymore about romance, except for a week or two around Valentine’s Day. I think something is amiss. Who doesn’t, if you are truly honest with yourself, desire more romance in your life?
Think of it. Romance is romance because of an array of delicious qualities such as genuine curiosity, adoring attention, expression of deep affection and passionate emotional involvement. Pretty good so far, don’t you think? There’s more. Romance is filled with charm and excitement. There is play, intense pleasure, profound interest and adoration. In romance one’s best self naturally shines forth, as well as the ability to see the magnificence in another. As I expect you know, there is a great deal of energy in romance – energy of vitality, passion and aliveness. Now I ask you again, “Who wouldn’t want more of that?” If you’re counting, count me in.
HOW TO HAVE MORE
The next question becomes “how?” Before answering this question, I want to remind you that any “great” relationship requires several things, one of which is romance. Now let’s get back to the question at hand, “What does it take to have more romance in my relationships?” First, let’s go back to the wisdom of Saint Valentine. He followed his heart not the dictates of something he didn’t believe in. So follow the desires of your heart, rather than the commands of “shoulds.” Second, choose to “become the Cupid in your own life.” Cupid, the Roman winged god of love, who shot his arrows of desire into unsuspecting persons has long been a symbol for Valentine’s Day. As Cupid, you get to shoot your arrows wherever you want. What relationship in your life would you like infused with more romance?
There is the obvious area of intimate relationships, whether with a long term partner or spouse, someone you are dating, or maybe even someone you are interested in but haven’t yet let them know. Is there still romance in your marriage or long term relationship? If yes, be grateful for it every day and keep doing what you’re doing that keeps romance alive. If not, let this month of love be the month to reclaim and re-ignite the playful, passionate aliveness of romance with some gesture that lets your partner know that you “see” and adore them. You can even do this with someone you are dating or begin with someone you are interested in. And there is always the long-stemmed red rose, ever the symbol of love and romance. Whatever you do, do it authentically - put your playful, thoughtful, passionate heart in it!
What about your business or career? Might it be time to start romancing your work or your business? Spend some time here with your full attention, appreciation and curiosity. What is one passionate action that would create a spark in this area of your life? Do that by Valentine’s Day. What is the particular charm or uniqueness of your work or business, even if dormant right now? Highlight that in your planning and next steps.
There are many relationships in your life that could be transformed by a little romance besides those I already mentioned – even those with money and time for starters. They all have one common denominator - You. Maybe now is the time to start some “serious” romancing of yourself? How much adoring attention, genuine curiosity and profound interest do you have for you? When was the last time you took time to “see” who you really are and what’s most important to you, or consciously gifted yourself with pleasure? Please take out your calendar and highlight an evening or an afternoon during the week of Valentine’s Day that you will treat yourself to a romantic date with “you” to do, be or have whatever strikes your romantic fantasy. And then, make it a habit.
THE THREE M’S OF ROMANCE
Romance requires that you take time, slow down and pay attention. And if romance strikes your fancy, remember that what you give your attention to grows stronger in your life.
I want to leave you with the three “M’s” of Romance – magic, mystery & miracles. These have to be present for real romance to occur. While science continually strives to “know” and find answers to or reasons for everything in life, I invite you to also allow for magic, mystery & miracles which provide much of the spice in life and the romance in love. Make sure to invite these into the Dance of Romance!
Enjoy this month, and beyond, of romance. And remember, You are a natural! You are brilliant! You are magnificent! Simply by being you. Let your light shine!
If you’d like to speak with me about connecting with your passion and creating a life and business you love, call today for a 30 - minute complimentary consultation @ 617-524-6153.
Attract Love by Allowing yourself to Receive it
Everyone desires to experience love with others. It is the greatest joy to feel love. We all know how to give love, but the problem is when we don't know how to receive it. Not being able to receive love is a major cause for many of the frustrations we face in relating with others. It is the same thing for anything that we give but seem to have problems receiving it in return. If we are able to receive love as much as we are able to give it, we will complete the cycle of experiencing love with others for full happiness.
We have been conditioned with the wrong beliefs that prevents us from receiving love. We think that it is pride to think highly of ourselves and expect others to think highly of us. That is why we do not openly receive compliments, adoration and all the gestures and expressions of love by others towards us. We turn away, try to hide from it and respond in all kinds of ways just not to appear as being proud, not knowing that we are actually rejecting the very love that is being given to us, than accepting it fully.
Be aware of how you respond to others when they are showing love to you. Do you get uncomfortable when others are looking at you and sending thoughts to make them stop looking at you? When someone tries to be extra nice to you, are you unable to accept it because it feels weird? When someone shows you adoration and praise, do you shy away and in any way try to diminish their expression? How you respond is exactly how you treat the love that people are giving to you whether you know it or not.
All the negative response that we make is the reason why we experience less and less expression of love from others. Each time they express love, we respond in a manner that says "please don't show me love, I'm unable to receive it" and we wonder why other people get to receive all the love in the world but we don't. We are the very ones creating all that we experience from other people. We program the way people treat us or don't treat us. We reinforce other people's behaviors negatively or positively.
Instead of rejecting love from others unknowingly when they show it, receive it. Do not just accept it but embrace it. When they behave extra nice to you, warmly receive them and show with the look in your eyes that you embrace their expression totally with appreciation. When others compliment you, allow them to do so freely and thank them for it. Show that you see yourself as a person worthy of all the love that others can give to you, and that others are free and welcomed to give it to you when they do.
There are those are so good at receiving love. They are able to attract all the love from others wherever they go. They act as if they are the star and everybody likes them. They are always expecting love and adoration from everyone and are showing it in the way they behave to you. They talk to you as if you admire them, like them, adore them, love them and want them. You can almost feel that they're tugging on your heart strings and drawing love from you to them. They appear and behave as so loveable.
Your relationship with love is mirrored in the external world in the way people respond to your love. Now you know why the ones whom you love and desire to express love to, can't seem to receive your love. It is because you can't receive love yourself. When others try to give you love, you unknowingly reject it. When you give love to the ones you love, you unknowingly reject them when they try to love you in return. When you can receive love from others, those you show love to can receive love from you.
Open yourself to love by allowing others the joy of loving you. Give them the gift of loving you by being loveable and attracting love from them. This is the magic key to making others love you and be able to show it to you. Allow them to express love to you in their action, words and expression, and having it well received. Our world will be so much more beautiful when others are able to express love to us and have us receive it fully, and we are also able to express love to others and have them receive it fully.
Some of us respond to love by an immediate counter expression of love. We are not really receiving the love when we give it back immediately. When someone says "I love you" to you, do not immediately respond with an "I love you" back at them. Take a moment to feel that love, receive it and let it sink in. Show that in your smile and the light in you eyes that you receive and appreciate it. Then out of the love that you feel, tell them that you love them. Do the same thing when responding to compliments.
In order to receive love from others, you must first be able to receive love from yourself. Declare mentally "I love myself" and then let the feeling of love generate from your heart area and expand to fill your entire being. Imagine a white light of love energy wrapped all over you on the inside and outside. Feel the love for yourself as you give it unconditionally and wholeheartedly. When you step into any place with the feeling of complete self love, you'll have an unassailable form that cannot be shaken by anyone.
From the place of self love are you able to truly love others. Allow yourself to be so full of that love for yourself and being that love, that it just spills over onto those around you. Then you can start projecting that love onto others. Let the love expand and fill the entire space that you are in so that everything around you is filled with the love that you are. When you love others from a place of self love, they are able to love you back freely because you do not need them to love you back since you have love yourself.
We have been conditioned with the wrong beliefs that prevents us from receiving love. We think that it is pride to think highly of ourselves and expect others to think highly of us. That is why we do not openly receive compliments, adoration and all the gestures and expressions of love by others towards us. We turn away, try to hide from it and respond in all kinds of ways just not to appear as being proud, not knowing that we are actually rejecting the very love that is being given to us, than accepting it fully.
Be aware of how you respond to others when they are showing love to you. Do you get uncomfortable when others are looking at you and sending thoughts to make them stop looking at you? When someone tries to be extra nice to you, are you unable to accept it because it feels weird? When someone shows you adoration and praise, do you shy away and in any way try to diminish their expression? How you respond is exactly how you treat the love that people are giving to you whether you know it or not.
All the negative response that we make is the reason why we experience less and less expression of love from others. Each time they express love, we respond in a manner that says "please don't show me love, I'm unable to receive it" and we wonder why other people get to receive all the love in the world but we don't. We are the very ones creating all that we experience from other people. We program the way people treat us or don't treat us. We reinforce other people's behaviors negatively or positively.
Instead of rejecting love from others unknowingly when they show it, receive it. Do not just accept it but embrace it. When they behave extra nice to you, warmly receive them and show with the look in your eyes that you embrace their expression totally with appreciation. When others compliment you, allow them to do so freely and thank them for it. Show that you see yourself as a person worthy of all the love that others can give to you, and that others are free and welcomed to give it to you when they do.
There are those are so good at receiving love. They are able to attract all the love from others wherever they go. They act as if they are the star and everybody likes them. They are always expecting love and adoration from everyone and are showing it in the way they behave to you. They talk to you as if you admire them, like them, adore them, love them and want them. You can almost feel that they're tugging on your heart strings and drawing love from you to them. They appear and behave as so loveable.
Your relationship with love is mirrored in the external world in the way people respond to your love. Now you know why the ones whom you love and desire to express love to, can't seem to receive your love. It is because you can't receive love yourself. When others try to give you love, you unknowingly reject it. When you give love to the ones you love, you unknowingly reject them when they try to love you in return. When you can receive love from others, those you show love to can receive love from you.
Open yourself to love by allowing others the joy of loving you. Give them the gift of loving you by being loveable and attracting love from them. This is the magic key to making others love you and be able to show it to you. Allow them to express love to you in their action, words and expression, and having it well received. Our world will be so much more beautiful when others are able to express love to us and have us receive it fully, and we are also able to express love to others and have them receive it fully.
Some of us respond to love by an immediate counter expression of love. We are not really receiving the love when we give it back immediately. When someone says "I love you" to you, do not immediately respond with an "I love you" back at them. Take a moment to feel that love, receive it and let it sink in. Show that in your smile and the light in you eyes that you receive and appreciate it. Then out of the love that you feel, tell them that you love them. Do the same thing when responding to compliments.
In order to receive love from others, you must first be able to receive love from yourself. Declare mentally "I love myself" and then let the feeling of love generate from your heart area and expand to fill your entire being. Imagine a white light of love energy wrapped all over you on the inside and outside. Feel the love for yourself as you give it unconditionally and wholeheartedly. When you step into any place with the feeling of complete self love, you'll have an unassailable form that cannot be shaken by anyone.
From the place of self love are you able to truly love others. Allow yourself to be so full of that love for yourself and being that love, that it just spills over onto those around you. Then you can start projecting that love onto others. Let the love expand and fill the entire space that you are in so that everything around you is filled with the love that you are. When you love others from a place of self love, they are able to love you back freely because you do not need them to love you back since you have love yourself.
Romance Reviews for Good Love Stories
Romance reviews are essential if you want to get a guide on good romance literature. Reviews will give you a sneak preview into what the romance story is all about. Romance reviews will save you the time of going through romance stories when you are not sure of reading them. It is vital for you to look for reviews that are helpful. The best reviews to look for are reader reviews or consumer reviews. Romance is a huge topic and, this is not surprising at all. Romance is the very essence of life. There are so many things that are used to communicate romance to people. The most common is romance literature. It is through romance books that you will be in a position to read about great romance ideas. You will also find good TV shows which will be used to show the kind of romance that you are yearning for. Good romance shows are also reviewed to give you an opportunity to see whether you will be in a position to find a good show. The TV shows and the books are used to give us a definition and practice of romance. We get to learn a lot from such media. Therefore, if you are looking for good inspiration of romance, it is time you got searching on good reviews.
Romance reviews can be gotten from various sources. If you are looking for a good online story of romance, you need to look for the reviews online. The online reviews will inform you on what to expect from the story. But why are the romance reviews very popular? They are the main source of entertainment in a romantic sense. Most people will enjoy a good romance story and, this is why romance will live on. Romance is quite broad and, it is vital for you to understand it and, you can do this by ensuring that you are reading some of the novels and other romance literature. If you are in a relationship, you will be in a position to benefit a lot from the romance tales. First, you will be inspired to find love if, you have not yet found that love. The other thing is that you will learn how to improve the romance in your life. Romance stories manage to play this role and, this is part of the reason why you will need to find good reviews.
Romance reviews are usually very objective and, you will not be disappointed. A good review will give you all the information you need about the romance story. Some of the things that you will get to learn are the good things as well as the bad things about the story. Not all romance stories are worth viewing or reading and, you will be in a position to have a list of the good ones. If you read a romance story, it is vital for you to write a review. This way, you will be in a position to assist all the fans who are looking to enjoy a good story. If a story is good, it will be pretty easy to write a review that is good. If the story has some flaws, you can also speak your mind in this regard. However, steer clear of personal attacks to a story. Otherwise, reviews play a major role in making our lives easier.
Romance reviews can be gotten from various sources. If you are looking for a good online story of romance, you need to look for the reviews online. The online reviews will inform you on what to expect from the story. But why are the romance reviews very popular? They are the main source of entertainment in a romantic sense. Most people will enjoy a good romance story and, this is why romance will live on. Romance is quite broad and, it is vital for you to understand it and, you can do this by ensuring that you are reading some of the novels and other romance literature. If you are in a relationship, you will be in a position to benefit a lot from the romance tales. First, you will be inspired to find love if, you have not yet found that love. The other thing is that you will learn how to improve the romance in your life. Romance stories manage to play this role and, this is part of the reason why you will need to find good reviews.
Romance reviews are usually very objective and, you will not be disappointed. A good review will give you all the information you need about the romance story. Some of the things that you will get to learn are the good things as well as the bad things about the story. Not all romance stories are worth viewing or reading and, you will be in a position to have a list of the good ones. If you read a romance story, it is vital for you to write a review. This way, you will be in a position to assist all the fans who are looking to enjoy a good story. If a story is good, it will be pretty easy to write a review that is good. If the story has some flaws, you can also speak your mind in this regard. However, steer clear of personal attacks to a story. Otherwise, reviews play a major role in making our lives easier.
Friday, 25 September 2009
Instant Love Tips to Attract Sexy Women the Right Way
Whether your ideal woman hangs out at the bar six nights a week and really knows how to party, or she's shy, retiring and loves bookstores more than the spa, you have to get her attention! Meeting women and getting their attention in a favorable way is very difficult for some men, but check out some of the love tips to attract women listed below. Don't forget that most women are out there looking too, and all you have to do is find each other.
1.Be forward, but not aggressive.
Buying a woman a drink or offering her a suggestion on the books she is trying to decide between is great; believing that it entitles you to something is most definitely not! If you are in a position to do something nice, do it, but don't expect anything in return. This establishes you as a gentleman, and no matter what the guidebooks tell you, that's exactly what most women are looking for.
2.Listen when she talks
Nothing is more flattering that someone who wants to listen. Don't be disingenuous about it, that is, don't fake an interest when something is boring you to tears. This is a lot more obvious than you might think it is, and a woman who realizes that you are only pretending to be interested will be a lot less predisposed to like you or enjoy your company. Instead, make it a point to find something interesting about what she says. Ask questions and before you know it, you might have a new hobby as well as a new girlfriend.
3.Don't treat her friends badly
Typically, her friends will have her best interests in mind, but sometimes they won't. One of the worst mistakes that a guy can make with a girl is by insulting or ignoring her friends, so make sure that you are at least polite. It can be a bit of a fine line sometimes; no girl wants the guy who was flirting with her to get overly chummy with her friends right away, but you don't want to blow them off, either. Just try to find a natural balance.
4.Be a gentleman
No matter what her views are, act in a way that is honorable to you. If you are the type to open doors and buy the meal, go ahead with that unless she declines, in which case, be gracious. Don't turn it into a big thing and be accepting of her views. Remember that if she is not similarly polite and gracious to you that you probably shouldn't be with her.
5.Be honest
It sounds like a bit of a no brainer, but if you really listen to yourself, you might be surprised at how often you tell her what you think she wants to hear. This counts, of course for the big stuff (whether you really want kids or if you're ready to be in a serious relationship) but it counts for the little stuff, as well. Even if she says something sort of outrageous like she would never be into a guy who doesn't know how to surf, don't tell her that you are a surfer to stay in the running; just say you never have but would be willing to learn.
1.Be forward, but not aggressive.
Buying a woman a drink or offering her a suggestion on the books she is trying to decide between is great; believing that it entitles you to something is most definitely not! If you are in a position to do something nice, do it, but don't expect anything in return. This establishes you as a gentleman, and no matter what the guidebooks tell you, that's exactly what most women are looking for.
2.Listen when she talks
Nothing is more flattering that someone who wants to listen. Don't be disingenuous about it, that is, don't fake an interest when something is boring you to tears. This is a lot more obvious than you might think it is, and a woman who realizes that you are only pretending to be interested will be a lot less predisposed to like you or enjoy your company. Instead, make it a point to find something interesting about what she says. Ask questions and before you know it, you might have a new hobby as well as a new girlfriend.
3.Don't treat her friends badly
Typically, her friends will have her best interests in mind, but sometimes they won't. One of the worst mistakes that a guy can make with a girl is by insulting or ignoring her friends, so make sure that you are at least polite. It can be a bit of a fine line sometimes; no girl wants the guy who was flirting with her to get overly chummy with her friends right away, but you don't want to blow them off, either. Just try to find a natural balance.
4.Be a gentleman
No matter what her views are, act in a way that is honorable to you. If you are the type to open doors and buy the meal, go ahead with that unless she declines, in which case, be gracious. Don't turn it into a big thing and be accepting of her views. Remember that if she is not similarly polite and gracious to you that you probably shouldn't be with her.
5.Be honest
It sounds like a bit of a no brainer, but if you really listen to yourself, you might be surprised at how often you tell her what you think she wants to hear. This counts, of course for the big stuff (whether you really want kids or if you're ready to be in a serious relationship) but it counts for the little stuff, as well. Even if she says something sort of outrageous like she would never be into a guy who doesn't know how to surf, don't tell her that you are a surfer to stay in the running; just say you never have but would be willing to learn.
Love Tips For Women - How to Get Your Man to Commit
Is there anything more frustrating than dating a man for months or worse, for years, with absolutely no mention of a long term commitment? Some men just don't seem willing to take that walk down the aisle and most of us women are quick to place all that blame on them. It takes two to decide to get married, so maybe it also takes two to sit on the brink of marriage for months or years. If you're feeling stuck in a relationship with a man you love who seems afraid of commitment there are a few love tips for women that you need to be aware of.
One of the best love tips for women in a relationship with a noncommittal man is to focus on your own life. When you make it clear to a man that you are crazy about him, he'll see no reason to keep chasing you. Consider the dynamic of your relationship with your man to this point. There's a very good chance that you tell him often how much he means to you. You're also likely dating him exclusively. Both of these are clear signs to him that he has you. He sees no reason to move things forward if he already has won your heart. You can remedy this by spending more time focusing on yourself and your own interests. Stop being available to him whenever he wants. Make a point of spending evenings out with your girlfriends. Put a little doubt in his mind and he'll start to wonder about you having other options.
Make your own plans for the future. If the man you are with hasn't expressed any views on how he sees his future with you, plan your own future. This can include just about anything from enrolling back in school to upgrade or taking a vacation without him. One of the best love tips for women who want a commitment is take control of your own future. Don't wait for him to decide what you two will be doing next month, next year or in five years. Plan things just for yourself and then let him know. Make no excuses for it. Make it clear to him that you are your number one priority. Once he sees that you are moving forward without considering him, he'll be more inclined to want to commit.
One of the best love tips for women in a relationship with a noncommittal man is to focus on your own life. When you make it clear to a man that you are crazy about him, he'll see no reason to keep chasing you. Consider the dynamic of your relationship with your man to this point. There's a very good chance that you tell him often how much he means to you. You're also likely dating him exclusively. Both of these are clear signs to him that he has you. He sees no reason to move things forward if he already has won your heart. You can remedy this by spending more time focusing on yourself and your own interests. Stop being available to him whenever he wants. Make a point of spending evenings out with your girlfriends. Put a little doubt in his mind and he'll start to wonder about you having other options.
Make your own plans for the future. If the man you are with hasn't expressed any views on how he sees his future with you, plan your own future. This can include just about anything from enrolling back in school to upgrade or taking a vacation without him. One of the best love tips for women who want a commitment is take control of your own future. Don't wait for him to decide what you two will be doing next month, next year or in five years. Plan things just for yourself and then let him know. Make no excuses for it. Make it clear to him that you are your number one priority. Once he sees that you are moving forward without considering him, he'll be more inclined to want to commit.
Tuesday, 15 September 2009
How to Find the Best Wedding Invitations
Wedding invitations are often the first indication of the style or theme of the event. Your friends and family should be able to get an idea about how formal the wedding will be, or, in the case of a destination wedding, where the event will be held. Often overlooked, wedding invitations are a crucial part of the wedding planning process and finding the best ones available should be a top priority.
Choosing the best wedding invitations means more than just picking top of the line cards and papers. It means choosing wedding invitations that reflect your style and the style of your wedding, as well as choosing wedding invitations that give your guests all the information they need in order to attend your wedding.
It is important to remember that the purpose of your wedding invitations is to give your prospective guests important information. That is why wedding invitations often contain so many parts. A full wedding invitation suite would include everything from Save the Date cards to Thank You cards, preferably all in the same style. One of the things you should consider when deciding on the best invitations for your wedding is whether there are coordinating pieces of stationery for all of your wedding stationery needs.
Of course, there are other factors to consider when choosing wedding invitations for your special event. Here’s how to pick the best wedding invitations to reflect the special style of your wedding day.
Choose wedding invitations that reflect the formality of your wedding
How formal is your wedding? If you are planning a formal wedding, you might want to choose wedding invitations that follow the “rules” of etiquette for wedding invitations. That means engraved wedding invitations in white or cream with black text, but it does not mean that you are confined to invitations that look like every other wedding invitation.
Even if you are choosing formal invitations, there is a surprising variety of styles in embossing, fonts and designs from which to choose. Whether you choose a timeless classic like Ivory Elegance or the more subtle beauty of Refined Grace, your wedding invitations will be a unique reflection of your formal, traditional wedding.
Semiformal and casual weddings open up an entire range of wedding invitations styles from which you can choose, or even design your own wedding invitations entirely. The invitations that you choose can use color, images and even photographs of the bride and groom. You may choose gatefold invitations with a photo of the bride and groom on the cover that open to reveal the printed text of the invitation itself, or pick a brightly accented invitation with matching foil liners for the invitation envelope.
Reflect your chosen colors in your wedding invitations
No matter what colors you have chosen for your wedding, you can find wedding invitations that reflect those colors. You have your choice of standard wedding invitations in cream or white with just a touch of your wedding colors in the form of ribbons or borders, or pick wedding invitations that make fuller use of your chosen colors in background papers, print or overall design. You can find colorful invitations that reflect your wedding colors when you choose a line of wedding invitations designed in house by the same designers that created your wedding dresses and other wedding stationery.
Find wedding invitations that suit the theme of your wedding
Theme weddings have never been more popular than they are now. Many couples choose to be married in a beach or island setting, in a medieval castle or in a garden that pays homage to Mother Nature. If you have decided to build your wedding around a theme, the best wedding invitations for you may be those that fit right into theme. For a beach wedding, you may choose invitations embossed with delicate shells and fronds, while the best wedding invitations for your fabulous Great Gatsby Roaring 20s wedding may feature art deco styling and bright colors.
Pick wedding invitations created by your favorite designers
Many designers of fabulous wedding dresses have opened their design lines to include a full line of bridal designs – not only wedding gowns and bridesmaid dresses, but wedding stationery, invitations and table décor. Let designers help you coordinate your wedding invitations with your wedding style by choosing a line of invitations inspired by your favorite designer.
Pick wedding invitations that are part of the season
If you are having a summer wedding, choose invitations that are light and breezy with lots of floral accents. The winter bride might choose a snowflake theme for her wedding invitations. You can find plenty of wedding invitations that are seasonal, reflecting the mood for both the time of year and traditional holidays when you shop online bridal shops.
Of course, the most important part of finding the best wedding invitations is to find wedding invitations that you love, and that reflect your style as a couple. The very best way to ensure that your wedding invitations are a perfect match for your wedding is to design them yourself. Many wedding designers now offer you the option to create your own wedding invitations right online.
Choosing the best wedding invitations means more than just picking top of the line cards and papers. It means choosing wedding invitations that reflect your style and the style of your wedding, as well as choosing wedding invitations that give your guests all the information they need in order to attend your wedding.
It is important to remember that the purpose of your wedding invitations is to give your prospective guests important information. That is why wedding invitations often contain so many parts. A full wedding invitation suite would include everything from Save the Date cards to Thank You cards, preferably all in the same style. One of the things you should consider when deciding on the best invitations for your wedding is whether there are coordinating pieces of stationery for all of your wedding stationery needs.
Of course, there are other factors to consider when choosing wedding invitations for your special event. Here’s how to pick the best wedding invitations to reflect the special style of your wedding day.
Choose wedding invitations that reflect the formality of your wedding
How formal is your wedding? If you are planning a formal wedding, you might want to choose wedding invitations that follow the “rules” of etiquette for wedding invitations. That means engraved wedding invitations in white or cream with black text, but it does not mean that you are confined to invitations that look like every other wedding invitation.
Even if you are choosing formal invitations, there is a surprising variety of styles in embossing, fonts and designs from which to choose. Whether you choose a timeless classic like Ivory Elegance or the more subtle beauty of Refined Grace, your wedding invitations will be a unique reflection of your formal, traditional wedding.
Semiformal and casual weddings open up an entire range of wedding invitations styles from which you can choose, or even design your own wedding invitations entirely. The invitations that you choose can use color, images and even photographs of the bride and groom. You may choose gatefold invitations with a photo of the bride and groom on the cover that open to reveal the printed text of the invitation itself, or pick a brightly accented invitation with matching foil liners for the invitation envelope.
Reflect your chosen colors in your wedding invitations
No matter what colors you have chosen for your wedding, you can find wedding invitations that reflect those colors. You have your choice of standard wedding invitations in cream or white with just a touch of your wedding colors in the form of ribbons or borders, or pick wedding invitations that make fuller use of your chosen colors in background papers, print or overall design. You can find colorful invitations that reflect your wedding colors when you choose a line of wedding invitations designed in house by the same designers that created your wedding dresses and other wedding stationery.
Find wedding invitations that suit the theme of your wedding
Theme weddings have never been more popular than they are now. Many couples choose to be married in a beach or island setting, in a medieval castle or in a garden that pays homage to Mother Nature. If you have decided to build your wedding around a theme, the best wedding invitations for you may be those that fit right into theme. For a beach wedding, you may choose invitations embossed with delicate shells and fronds, while the best wedding invitations for your fabulous Great Gatsby Roaring 20s wedding may feature art deco styling and bright colors.
Pick wedding invitations created by your favorite designers
Many designers of fabulous wedding dresses have opened their design lines to include a full line of bridal designs – not only wedding gowns and bridesmaid dresses, but wedding stationery, invitations and table décor. Let designers help you coordinate your wedding invitations with your wedding style by choosing a line of invitations inspired by your favorite designer.
Pick wedding invitations that are part of the season
If you are having a summer wedding, choose invitations that are light and breezy with lots of floral accents. The winter bride might choose a snowflake theme for her wedding invitations. You can find plenty of wedding invitations that are seasonal, reflecting the mood for both the time of year and traditional holidays when you shop online bridal shops.
Of course, the most important part of finding the best wedding invitations is to find wedding invitations that you love, and that reflect your style as a couple. The very best way to ensure that your wedding invitations are a perfect match for your wedding is to design them yourself. Many wedding designers now offer you the option to create your own wedding invitations right online.
Monday, 14 September 2009
Give Your Date a Night to Remember
I am communicating with somebody from a dating site and we are close to getting out on our opening date. Wherever are the most proficient places for our first date?
The bulk of online daters hold their first date at a café. It is a very instinctive and easy surrounding where you are able to create an immediate departure or stay on for hours depending on how the date advances. So what is the most common spot was for a first date, more importantly “the best spots”. Here are a few more options…
1) Miniature golf game.
What’s neat about miniature golf is that it's an activity date where you aim to experience the new person whilst undergoing some fun. In a locale such as this, it’s more comfortable for your persona (and your date’s persona) to shine.
2) Hole in the Wall Eat Out.
This constitutes among those humble spots that hardly any people know about that deliver absolute great table service and food. It can involve a lot of research on your part uncovering it, but once you discover this gem, it will very much impress both your date and you.
3) Local Comedy nightspot.
Let’s face it,partaking in an entertaining experience during a first date could help build a fast bond. Plan on getting to the comedy club earlyish with your date to get time to know one an other prior to the “main event”. Being able to joke and experience fun on your date is a recipee for a great night. But if you consider your date might be shocked by forceful language or sexual insinuations from a comedian, perhaps it’s better to look somewhere else for a first date.
4) Local carnival or Theme Park.
Reports indicate that proceeding on a date at a theme park assists building a bond as the playfulness related to the event is every bit related with who the event is shared with. Hence getting together at a theme park or local funfair can offer great interactivity and amusement.
While imagining a site for a first date, be originative, but not over the top. Be sure the locale is a spot your date can meet you at (it is never a smart thought to pick up your date or permit yourself to be picked up on a first date). Your initial date might have been to a café, however being a shade imaginative (and unusual) will assist you to stand out from the bunch.
Free Internet dating sites can often be a great place to start for dating ideas. The internet has many free online dating sites and free chat rooms that offer dating related articles for singles who are looking for dating ideas. Participating in singles chat rooms is a fantastic way check out what other singles are getting up to on their latest dating adventures.
Recent internet dating research suggests that 30% of singles now use free chat rooms and online dating sites in an attempt to meet new friends and singles.
The bulk of online daters hold their first date at a café. It is a very instinctive and easy surrounding where you are able to create an immediate departure or stay on for hours depending on how the date advances. So what is the most common spot was for a first date, more importantly “the best spots”. Here are a few more options…
1) Miniature golf game.
What’s neat about miniature golf is that it's an activity date where you aim to experience the new person whilst undergoing some fun. In a locale such as this, it’s more comfortable for your persona (and your date’s persona) to shine.
2) Hole in the Wall Eat Out.
This constitutes among those humble spots that hardly any people know about that deliver absolute great table service and food. It can involve a lot of research on your part uncovering it, but once you discover this gem, it will very much impress both your date and you.
3) Local Comedy nightspot.
Let’s face it,partaking in an entertaining experience during a first date could help build a fast bond. Plan on getting to the comedy club earlyish with your date to get time to know one an other prior to the “main event”. Being able to joke and experience fun on your date is a recipee for a great night. But if you consider your date might be shocked by forceful language or sexual insinuations from a comedian, perhaps it’s better to look somewhere else for a first date.
4) Local carnival or Theme Park.
Reports indicate that proceeding on a date at a theme park assists building a bond as the playfulness related to the event is every bit related with who the event is shared with. Hence getting together at a theme park or local funfair can offer great interactivity and amusement.
While imagining a site for a first date, be originative, but not over the top. Be sure the locale is a spot your date can meet you at (it is never a smart thought to pick up your date or permit yourself to be picked up on a first date). Your initial date might have been to a café, however being a shade imaginative (and unusual) will assist you to stand out from the bunch.
Free Internet dating sites can often be a great place to start for dating ideas. The internet has many free online dating sites and free chat rooms that offer dating related articles for singles who are looking for dating ideas. Participating in singles chat rooms is a fantastic way check out what other singles are getting up to on their latest dating adventures.
Recent internet dating research suggests that 30% of singles now use free chat rooms and online dating sites in an attempt to meet new friends and singles.
Choosing the Perfect Engagement Rings
If you have started looking at engagement rings than I am sure you have found countless guides about the 4 C's - clarity, cut, carat and color. These are the four factors which determine the price of a diamond in an engagement ring. If you are on a budget but still need to get her the perfect ring than you should consider buying for style. If you buy her the perfectly styled ring now, you can always replace the diamond later for a bigger one when you can afford it. This article will be your guide to the main engagement ring styles that are popular today.
Engagement ring styles refer to the engagement ring settings which is the actual metal that makes up the ring. There are currently six different engagement ring settings which are popular and stylish. Engagement Rings Solitaire Settings
Solitaire settings are the classic settings for engagement diamond rings. These beautiful engagement ring settings are stylish for all shapes of loose diamonds – Round, Oval, Pear, Marquise, Emerald, Heart, Radiant and Asscher. The advantage of these settings is that light gets to the stone and reveals the diamonds' brilliance and true colors. The disadvantage is that the engagement ring settings offer less protection to the stone. These settings are the most popular form chosen for engagement ring settings.
Engagement Rings - Cathedral Settings
Diamond Engagement ring setting styles come in all shapes and settings. Cathedral settings are one the most romantic diamond settings that exist. The center diamond in Cathedral settings are beautifully displayed and securely nested between bands extending from each side, providing protection to your diamond. For a perfect look in an evening gown or tennis outfit' choose these engagement diamond ring settings.
Engagement Rings - Two Tapered Baguette Settings
The Two Tapered Baguettes Engagement Ring settings will surround your center diamond with two other shining diamonds to bolster the look of luxury. At any social event, you will likely find everyone gawking at these brilliant diamond ring settings.
Engagement Rings – Antique Engagement Ring Settings
Antique Style Engagement Ring Settings create the romance and air of majesty and kingdom. The center diamond, in an antique Style Engagement Ring, is often a fancy cut diamond – Oval, Pear, Marquise, Emerald or Heart. These types of diamond ring settings were designed for a queen.
Engagement Rings - Bezel Settings
These diamond ring settings, place the diamonds within a collar at near level with the surface of the ring. A bezel set diamond ring adds height and dimension, protects the diamond's girdle from damage and fits complex diamond shapes. These diamond ring settings, in white, will cause the diamonds to appear larger than they really do. If the diamond ring settings are yellow, the diamonds set within will also appear yellowish. The Bezel Setting may be used with most shapes of diamonds.
Engagement Rings - Channel Settings
Channel Diamond Ring Settings is another way of setting small diamonds on two sides, in order to create impressive engagement ring settings. Channel Settings protect the diamonds girdles and are completely smooth. Channel settings are not recommended for fragile stones. Note: You may have trouble trying resizing a ring with stones set all the way around it.
Engagement ring styles refer to the engagement ring settings which is the actual metal that makes up the ring. There are currently six different engagement ring settings which are popular and stylish. Engagement Rings Solitaire Settings
Solitaire settings are the classic settings for engagement diamond rings. These beautiful engagement ring settings are stylish for all shapes of loose diamonds – Round, Oval, Pear, Marquise, Emerald, Heart, Radiant and Asscher. The advantage of these settings is that light gets to the stone and reveals the diamonds' brilliance and true colors. The disadvantage is that the engagement ring settings offer less protection to the stone. These settings are the most popular form chosen for engagement ring settings.
Engagement Rings - Cathedral Settings
Diamond Engagement ring setting styles come in all shapes and settings. Cathedral settings are one the most romantic diamond settings that exist. The center diamond in Cathedral settings are beautifully displayed and securely nested between bands extending from each side, providing protection to your diamond. For a perfect look in an evening gown or tennis outfit' choose these engagement diamond ring settings.
Engagement Rings - Two Tapered Baguette Settings
The Two Tapered Baguettes Engagement Ring settings will surround your center diamond with two other shining diamonds to bolster the look of luxury. At any social event, you will likely find everyone gawking at these brilliant diamond ring settings.
Engagement Rings – Antique Engagement Ring Settings
Antique Style Engagement Ring Settings create the romance and air of majesty and kingdom. The center diamond, in an antique Style Engagement Ring, is often a fancy cut diamond – Oval, Pear, Marquise, Emerald or Heart. These types of diamond ring settings were designed for a queen.
Engagement Rings - Bezel Settings
These diamond ring settings, place the diamonds within a collar at near level with the surface of the ring. A bezel set diamond ring adds height and dimension, protects the diamond's girdle from damage and fits complex diamond shapes. These diamond ring settings, in white, will cause the diamonds to appear larger than they really do. If the diamond ring settings are yellow, the diamonds set within will also appear yellowish. The Bezel Setting may be used with most shapes of diamonds.
Engagement Rings - Channel Settings
Channel Diamond Ring Settings is another way of setting small diamonds on two sides, in order to create impressive engagement ring settings. Channel Settings protect the diamonds girdles and are completely smooth. Channel settings are not recommended for fragile stones. Note: You may have trouble trying resizing a ring with stones set all the way around it.
Saturday, 5 September 2009
Online Dating Secrets
Some of the most important factors for successful online dating is to keep it fun and to be confident as you enjoy the journey. You deserve to discover the little-known secrets that will help you have a passionate online dating experience. The pratical advice in this article will show you some of the best online dating secrets that will help you get more positive responses.
Do: Make the most out of your online dating service. Have a catching profile title and include an attractive (recent) picture of yourself. Your photo is often the first thing they will look at. Make sure to have one that is warm, inviting and attractive. Ask a close friend to help you pick out the best photo and work with you on your dating profile; many times our friends see our best qualities better than we do ourselves. Once your profile is updated, spend some time looking around the site, sending and responding to any messages you may have received.
Don't: if that is not who you really are. Honesty, is the best policy here.
Do: Find common interest. Having common interests is like a building block to any relationship. Find out activities that interest you both are interested in such as: Dating services offer many methods for singles to meet together in an up-beat manner. Keep that same frame of mind when dating by always ending your online chat session or date on a positive note, even if you think they don't want to talk with you again. It will make you feel better about how you conducted yourself and show your date you are optimistic about any possible future relationship.
Internet Dating Safety Tip: If you notice the other person repeatedly avoids an equal sharing of information, end all communications immediately!
Don't: Talk about your ex or past relationships. A quick way to ruin a date is to talk about your baggage and insecurities. Never harp over and over on a subject relating to an 'ex' in your emails. The best frame of mind is to leave the past behind and never even mention your ex, your problems, your failures or your insecurities.
Do: Help them to feel like they can comfortably talk with you. As you meet someone who peaks your interest, it is natural to feel curious about them. It is if perfectly normal to ask both yes and no questions and open-ended questions. By creating conversations out of mutual interests you will keep the conversation alive and going.
Don't: Appear like your desperate by emailing more than once before they reply back. People that do this only appear annoying and needy. You cannot convince someone to like you or feel differently about you by means of sending irritating emails.
Do: When it comes time for it, be the one to make the first move. If you find that is difficult to begin the initial conversation, you can always start by giving your date a sincere compliment. If they if they give you one back they are open to talking. Striking up a conversation first may be tricky at first, but you will begin to feel your confidence growing the more people you initiate a conversation with.
Don't: Discuss Marriage or Your Future Plans. Discussing marriage and children on your first date will most likely increase your chances that you won't have a second date. These kind of conversations are too pushy and even frightening when you're first meeting someone or new in a relationship. It can make your date feel like they are being interviewed to be your future spouse, and is not something you should put on them all at once!
Do: Make the most out of your online dating service. Have a catching profile title and include an attractive (recent) picture of yourself. Your photo is often the first thing they will look at. Make sure to have one that is warm, inviting and attractive. Ask a close friend to help you pick out the best photo and work with you on your dating profile; many times our friends see our best qualities better than we do ourselves. Once your profile is updated, spend some time looking around the site, sending and responding to any messages you may have received.
Don't: if that is not who you really are. Honesty, is the best policy here.
Do: Find common interest. Having common interests is like a building block to any relationship. Find out activities that interest you both are interested in such as: Dating services offer many methods for singles to meet together in an up-beat manner. Keep that same frame of mind when dating by always ending your online chat session or date on a positive note, even if you think they don't want to talk with you again. It will make you feel better about how you conducted yourself and show your date you are optimistic about any possible future relationship.
Internet Dating Safety Tip: If you notice the other person repeatedly avoids an equal sharing of information, end all communications immediately!
Don't: Talk about your ex or past relationships. A quick way to ruin a date is to talk about your baggage and insecurities. Never harp over and over on a subject relating to an 'ex' in your emails. The best frame of mind is to leave the past behind and never even mention your ex, your problems, your failures or your insecurities.
Do: Help them to feel like they can comfortably talk with you. As you meet someone who peaks your interest, it is natural to feel curious about them. It is if perfectly normal to ask both yes and no questions and open-ended questions. By creating conversations out of mutual interests you will keep the conversation alive and going.
Don't: Appear like your desperate by emailing more than once before they reply back. People that do this only appear annoying and needy. You cannot convince someone to like you or feel differently about you by means of sending irritating emails.
Do: When it comes time for it, be the one to make the first move. If you find that is difficult to begin the initial conversation, you can always start by giving your date a sincere compliment. If they if they give you one back they are open to talking. Striking up a conversation first may be tricky at first, but you will begin to feel your confidence growing the more people you initiate a conversation with.
Don't: Discuss Marriage or Your Future Plans. Discussing marriage and children on your first date will most likely increase your chances that you won't have a second date. These kind of conversations are too pushy and even frightening when you're first meeting someone or new in a relationship. It can make your date feel like they are being interviewed to be your future spouse, and is not something you should put on them all at once!
Sunday, 30 August 2009
21st Century Online Dating
As more and more people use online dating services and dating agencies to help them find their Soulmates, a new specialty service has emerged in the form of an Online Dating Coach. While the online dating sites compile your personal information so they can do the matchmaking, a Dating Coach works directly with the clients to help them establish and develop the relationships which start within the agency. A Dating Coach has the responsibility of helping clients effectively market themselves on the dating site. Essentially, an Online Dating Coach provides personal coaching services to clients so they can put their best foot forward in making contact with the other dating site members.
An Online Dating Coach is a dating specialist who, after interviewing and working with a client and using special coaching assessment tools, will help the client put his or her thoughts, feelings, and values on paper (so to speak) and in doing so create the client's Online Dating Profile which will be seen by the other members.
Ongoing coaching sessions with a Dating Coach may be as simple as meeting by phone for an hour to discuss the men or women you've dated over the past week, or they may become as intricate as having your Dating Coach listen carefully while you practice flirting with strangers, or role playing to get ready for "the big night out."
In addition to this, an Online Dating Coach will help his clients see how their thoughts and feelings are affecting their dating matches, and will offer guidance and feedback to enhance the client's likelihood of success. In many cases, a Dating Coach's clients have been away from the single marketplace for a good number of years. Therefore a bit of rehabilitation is helpful for some clients as a way to familiarize them with 21st century dating practices. A lot has changed in the world of dating in the past ten or twenty years - indeed, even in the past five years have dating rituals evolved!
A Dating Coach usually works by phone, and typically, weekly or twice-a-week telephone coaching sessions are scheduled at the convenience of the client, sometimes after work and occasionally on the weekends. At the beginning of the coaching process, a Dating Coach will do an initial assessment to get the larger picture of what's occurred in the client's personal life. During that assessment, the client's personal values are mined through a series of open-ended questions. This interview sets the stage for the effective coaching sessions that follow.
Perhaps the most important aspect of selecting a Dating Coach is investigating their professional academic credentials. You'll want to make sure that your Dating Coach has been professionally trained of course. A Dating Coach who has a background in Psychology or Social Work (if not both) can be very helpful in drawing out the qualities of a client's personality that he or she may not even be aware of themselves. The Dating Coach can then help the client express themselves so their dates have the benefit of their true feelings and personality. As a simplistic but illustrative example, shyness in a person is often mistaken for conceit. The person who seems unfriendly is often just bashful, but this quality may lead to a misunderstanding - especially on a first date. A properly trained Dating Coach can resolve this type of issue by helping the client compensate for his or her shyness and even make it work in their favor.
An Online Dating Coach is a dating specialist who, after interviewing and working with a client and using special coaching assessment tools, will help the client put his or her thoughts, feelings, and values on paper (so to speak) and in doing so create the client's Online Dating Profile which will be seen by the other members.
Ongoing coaching sessions with a Dating Coach may be as simple as meeting by phone for an hour to discuss the men or women you've dated over the past week, or they may become as intricate as having your Dating Coach listen carefully while you practice flirting with strangers, or role playing to get ready for "the big night out."
In addition to this, an Online Dating Coach will help his clients see how their thoughts and feelings are affecting their dating matches, and will offer guidance and feedback to enhance the client's likelihood of success. In many cases, a Dating Coach's clients have been away from the single marketplace for a good number of years. Therefore a bit of rehabilitation is helpful for some clients as a way to familiarize them with 21st century dating practices. A lot has changed in the world of dating in the past ten or twenty years - indeed, even in the past five years have dating rituals evolved!
A Dating Coach usually works by phone, and typically, weekly or twice-a-week telephone coaching sessions are scheduled at the convenience of the client, sometimes after work and occasionally on the weekends. At the beginning of the coaching process, a Dating Coach will do an initial assessment to get the larger picture of what's occurred in the client's personal life. During that assessment, the client's personal values are mined through a series of open-ended questions. This interview sets the stage for the effective coaching sessions that follow.
Perhaps the most important aspect of selecting a Dating Coach is investigating their professional academic credentials. You'll want to make sure that your Dating Coach has been professionally trained of course. A Dating Coach who has a background in Psychology or Social Work (if not both) can be very helpful in drawing out the qualities of a client's personality that he or she may not even be aware of themselves. The Dating Coach can then help the client express themselves so their dates have the benefit of their true feelings and personality. As a simplistic but illustrative example, shyness in a person is often mistaken for conceit. The person who seems unfriendly is often just bashful, but this quality may lead to a misunderstanding - especially on a first date. A properly trained Dating Coach can resolve this type of issue by helping the client compensate for his or her shyness and even make it work in their favor.
Free Online Dating Service
A free online dating service or free dating site will normally offer unmoderated matchmaking online / via Internet by use of computers and cell phones. Once you join the online dating service or site, you will be required to provide your personal information (so others can know you) and your most resent photo (optional), you will be able to search through the service provider data base, search through other individuals using a certain criteria set by the free dating site such as age, gender and location as you view photos. Joining a free dating site is therefore the best and most reliable method of dating since it offers you privacy and additional online dating services such as Online chat, Webcast, telephone chat (VOIP), message board, etc. click here to join the best free dating site..
Free Online Dating Service:
Most online dating sites do not offer free online dating service, you will be required to pay a certain fee to access their database in different categories, here you have a chance to join for free the best free dating site on the Internet where you will meet thousands of singles ready for all sorts of relationships. In 2009 a new variant of the online dating service model has been introduced, attracting a large number of daters and investors unlike the old online dating service model where members search and contact other members whom they find compatible, here you will be introduced to members you are attracted to via an automated messaging service via Internet.
Free Online Dating Sites:
Free online dating sites have taken a quick lead over paid online dating sites, today people have a variety of options when it comes to dating because of the Internet. It has now become popular to meet new people and friends through online dating because it is easier to meet different kinds of people form allover the world and it is therefore important to know some online dating secrets in order to make the dating experience safer and more enjoyable. Free online dating is perfect for you if you do not have time to go around dating because it will be possible for you to search for people with the same interests as yours and people who are attractive to you. One of the important thing you need to remember is to read other members profiles carefully because this will this you the proper guideline on how to start a conversation.
Free Online Dating Service:
Most online dating sites do not offer free online dating service, you will be required to pay a certain fee to access their database in different categories, here you have a chance to join for free the best free dating site on the Internet where you will meet thousands of singles ready for all sorts of relationships. In 2009 a new variant of the online dating service model has been introduced, attracting a large number of daters and investors unlike the old online dating service model where members search and contact other members whom they find compatible, here you will be introduced to members you are attracted to via an automated messaging service via Internet.
Free Online Dating Sites:
Free online dating sites have taken a quick lead over paid online dating sites, today people have a variety of options when it comes to dating because of the Internet. It has now become popular to meet new people and friends through online dating because it is easier to meet different kinds of people form allover the world and it is therefore important to know some online dating secrets in order to make the dating experience safer and more enjoyable. Free online dating is perfect for you if you do not have time to go around dating because it will be possible for you to search for people with the same interests as yours and people who are attractive to you. One of the important thing you need to remember is to read other members profiles carefully because this will this you the proper guideline on how to start a conversation.
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