To men women are complicated beautiful and irresistible Goddesses. I can admit it; we can be pretty demanding and hard to please sometimes. However, if we were not here, there would not be any beauty; no one for you guys to argue with, no make-up sex, you would not have that other half that completes you and there would be no scent and the scent of a woman is enough to drive any man insane. You might have found that one and you just don't know what to do to get her more into you. It's not complicated when it comes to pleasing a woman. Honesty is number one on the list, be yourself and hopefully you will not run her away. Here are 10 real ways to get to her heart and make her all yours.
1. As I said before, honesty is number one. Be honest like if you are going through a divorce let her know, do not wait until the last minute, and let her know what she's getting herself in too.
2. Tell a little about yourself not too much. You have plenty of time to get to know one another. Do not be uptight show her that you know how to have a good time.
3. Treat her like a woman! Compliment her, open doors, take her shopping if there is one thing everyone knows about women is that we love to shop. Act as if you are really into her, make her feel special.
4. Don't ignore her! Listen and respond communication is very important. We like to be listened to and we like to know that you are really listening, you do not want to mess that up because there will be questions about anything she is talking to you about.
5. Find out things that she likes to do instead of you thinking of what she might like. Be understanding if you have to sit with her and watch one of her favorite romantic movie with her, you might feel like running for your life, but in thee end it will pay off.
6. Do not rush her to have sex with you. You should at least wait until she makes a move or if the topic about sex has came up just let her know that you are here and will always will be until she's ready.
7. Cook for her, a man that can cook is so sexy. Find out what type of songs she likes and make her a CD. Pop it in the next time she comes to your place. She will find that flattering knowing that you care about the things she is into. Don't have any of your ex-girlfriends into the picture they are the past so act like it's that way.
8. When it is time, don't just have sex make love, make passionate love. Appreciating a woman's body will definitely put you closer to her heart. Anyone can have sex, let her know you see her for who she is express what you feel, be gentle and thoughtful. If you have a problem, giving her pleasure read the book Female Orgasm Revealed it is a hot sex book that teaches you moves on how to give your lover mind-blowing pleasure. If she has a wild side and you enjoy it, try some exotic underwear for men. Adam & Eve.com has tons of sexual games and lingerie to fulfilling sexual desires.
9. Give her that sense of security. Let her know that you are her protector, but do not crowd her. Appreciate her independence and her strength; if she feels you are intimidated by that then you are setting yourself up for disaster. Don't be afraid to spend money on her. Buy her flowers, chocolate, a book by one of her favorite authors, or take an off day to something fun. Make her laugh, play games, go skating be adventurous.
10. Finally yet importantly let her drive your car. Yes, I know some men are obsessed with their vehicles but if you let her drive it, you will be letting her know that you are really into her and trust her.
Thursday, 12 November 2009
Signs That He Cares About You – Insight into What Your Man is Feeling
Women sometimes have to jump to conclusions when it comes to trying to determine exactly what their man feels for them. Men aren’t nearly as transparent as we are with their feelings. It’s easy to want him to love you as much as you love him but if his behavior is telling you otherwise, it’s hard to know exactly what to think. Luckily there are a few signs that he cares about you that will give you some insight into his heart. If you notice any of these in your man, you can rest assured that he’s already crazy about you.
One of the telltale signs that he cares about you is he’ll be much more interested in talking about you than himself. Most of us have dated at least one man who just couldn’t seem to get enough of himself. Men like this aren’t in love with anyone but themselves. If your guy wants to know how your day was and if he is constantly asking you questions about yourself, he’s hooked. Pay close attention the next time you two have dinner. Weigh how much he talks about you versus how much he talks about himself. If the conversation is focused on you, you’ve got nothing to worry about. He’s already yours.
Many women complain that their man just can’t seem to be the one to pick up the phone to call. This is frustrating and it can make a woman question how much her man really cares about her. A man in love will call. He’ll want to talk and he’ll want to make plans. If he’s busy, he’ll still find time to call to say hi. If you’re always the one calling him or arranging your plans together, he may not be as interested in you as you are in him.
You should also take note of how much he wants to help you. When a man cares about a woman he’ll go out of his way to do things for her. He’ll always be offering his help whether she expresses a need for it or not. This isn’t necessarily because he wants to impress you, but rather he just wants to make your life as easy and comfortable as possible. If your man is doing this for you, he feels very close to you.
One of the telltale signs that he cares about you is he’ll be much more interested in talking about you than himself. Most of us have dated at least one man who just couldn’t seem to get enough of himself. Men like this aren’t in love with anyone but themselves. If your guy wants to know how your day was and if he is constantly asking you questions about yourself, he’s hooked. Pay close attention the next time you two have dinner. Weigh how much he talks about you versus how much he talks about himself. If the conversation is focused on you, you’ve got nothing to worry about. He’s already yours.
Many women complain that their man just can’t seem to be the one to pick up the phone to call. This is frustrating and it can make a woman question how much her man really cares about her. A man in love will call. He’ll want to talk and he’ll want to make plans. If he’s busy, he’ll still find time to call to say hi. If you’re always the one calling him or arranging your plans together, he may not be as interested in you as you are in him.
You should also take note of how much he wants to help you. When a man cares about a woman he’ll go out of his way to do things for her. He’ll always be offering his help whether she expresses a need for it or not. This isn’t necessarily because he wants to impress you, but rather he just wants to make your life as easy and comfortable as possible. If your man is doing this for you, he feels very close to you.
Sunday, 8 November 2009
Wedding Tuxes for the Groom
You'll want to look as dapper as possible when you marry the love of your life and that's where wedding tuxes go a long way to making you look like a prince. But wedding tuxes aren't the only thing you need to consider if you want to look great for your bride. Accessories help a formal suit into something outstanding. Paying attention to your accessories can help you look the best you can for your fiancee.
Unless you're going for the somewhat dated band collar, you're going to need a necktie. And thanks to the many different styles of wedding tuxes, you also have a few choices when it comes to choosing neck wear. For your wedding day, it's best to stick with something conservative in regards to variety of colors and patterns. A few ideas to consider are a silver tie goes well with a black tuxedo. You can even get away with a well-done weave or a stripe. For ultra formal wedding tuxes, go for a white tie. Black ties always look formal and bow ties tend to look slightly more formal than long neckties. Colored ties work for groomsmen if you're trying to match them to the bridesmaids. They also work for less formal weddings.
Vests are a better choice than cummerbunds, although both allow you to set your suit apart. Vests are also known as waistcoats. You can choose a standard black or white or pick more colors. White tends to be more formal and should be paired with white neck wear. With your typical rental of wedding tuxes, you'll find the backless vests are most common. It may, however, be worth it to spend a little more for the vest with a back because it's more stylish and looks better when you remove your jacket.
A cummerbund is pleated fabric worn at the waist in a band. They are never worn with a vest and are used instead of a waistcoat. The ruffles stay up and the color should compliment the other colors in your wedding party, although basic black is the safest bet. Do not walk around without your jacket when wearing a cummerbund because you'll only succeed in looking poorly groomed and unkempt.
Make sure you choose a great pair of shoes
. It's essential for the complete formal and groomed looking of wedding tuxes. You can wear shoes you already own as long as they match, do not have adornments and are in good shape. Otherwise you can either buy an elegant patent leather shoe or rent a pair. Shoes need to be polished to a rich shine so that they look the best they possibly can.
Little details such as cuff links and a stud set can really do wonders for the look of all sorts of wedding tuxes. They may be tiny flourishes, but they can make a big statement. You can go with a classic shape for your cuff links or pick something custom-designed to match your hobbies or personal interests.
Stud sets on formal shirts are used in place of buttons. They often come with the rental of wedding tuxes, but the quality is typically poor. If you want to use stud set, you can buy your own and make sure they either match or compliment your cuff links for a fully finished look.
Unless you're going for the somewhat dated band collar, you're going to need a necktie. And thanks to the many different styles of wedding tuxes, you also have a few choices when it comes to choosing neck wear. For your wedding day, it's best to stick with something conservative in regards to variety of colors and patterns. A few ideas to consider are a silver tie goes well with a black tuxedo. You can even get away with a well-done weave or a stripe. For ultra formal wedding tuxes, go for a white tie. Black ties always look formal and bow ties tend to look slightly more formal than long neckties. Colored ties work for groomsmen if you're trying to match them to the bridesmaids. They also work for less formal weddings.
Vests are a better choice than cummerbunds, although both allow you to set your suit apart. Vests are also known as waistcoats. You can choose a standard black or white or pick more colors. White tends to be more formal and should be paired with white neck wear. With your typical rental of wedding tuxes, you'll find the backless vests are most common. It may, however, be worth it to spend a little more for the vest with a back because it's more stylish and looks better when you remove your jacket.
A cummerbund is pleated fabric worn at the waist in a band. They are never worn with a vest and are used instead of a waistcoat. The ruffles stay up and the color should compliment the other colors in your wedding party, although basic black is the safest bet. Do not walk around without your jacket when wearing a cummerbund because you'll only succeed in looking poorly groomed and unkempt.
Make sure you choose a great pair of shoes
. It's essential for the complete formal and groomed looking of wedding tuxes. You can wear shoes you already own as long as they match, do not have adornments and are in good shape. Otherwise you can either buy an elegant patent leather shoe or rent a pair. Shoes need to be polished to a rich shine so that they look the best they possibly can.
Little details such as cuff links and a stud set can really do wonders for the look of all sorts of wedding tuxes. They may be tiny flourishes, but they can make a big statement. You can go with a classic shape for your cuff links or pick something custom-designed to match your hobbies or personal interests.
Stud sets on formal shirts are used in place of buttons. They often come with the rental of wedding tuxes, but the quality is typically poor. If you want to use stud set, you can buy your own and make sure they either match or compliment your cuff links for a fully finished look.
Learn The Easiest Way To Make Him Love You Again - Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Now
There are many ways to get an ex boyfriend back, but the problem is, after a breakup and your emotions are running at their peak, you listen to your heart instead of your head and things you ordinarily would not do. Your first and only thought is getting your ex back. That is all that matters to you right now. So you run after him crying and pleading for him to love you again. This will never work. If you want to lose your man forever keep in his face with pleas threats or trying to make him feel sorry for you. This will not get an ex back. It will only drive him to run and hide from you.
The best thing you can do right after a breakup is disappear from his life completely. No contact at all. Let him have time to think. He cannot think or begin to wonder if the breakup was a mistake if you are constantly in his face reminding him of why he broke up with you. The best thing is for you to find something to occupy your mind other than you ex. A good start would be to get back with the friends and relatives you may have been neglected. You need to be around people that love you right now. They will welcome you with open arms and give you the comfort and love you need.
During this time away from him you should try to think of the main cause for the breakup. No doubt there were a lot of little annoyances, but do not dwell on these because you are after the biggest reason or reasons for the split. Once you have isolated these reasons you will need to think of how you can take some sensible measures to fix them. If they are just left to hang in the air and be repeated you can never achieve the happy relationship you seek.
During this time away from him your ex has had time to consider some things also. He will come to see how much he misses you and needs you in his life. At this same time, you will have come up with the main causes of the breakup and a way to keep them from ever happening again. With your ex beginning to miss you, and you having found a way to fix your relationship problems, this is the time to formulate a plan to get your ex boyfriend back and make him love you again.
The best thing you can do right after a breakup is disappear from his life completely. No contact at all. Let him have time to think. He cannot think or begin to wonder if the breakup was a mistake if you are constantly in his face reminding him of why he broke up with you. The best thing is for you to find something to occupy your mind other than you ex. A good start would be to get back with the friends and relatives you may have been neglected. You need to be around people that love you right now. They will welcome you with open arms and give you the comfort and love you need.
During this time away from him you should try to think of the main cause for the breakup. No doubt there were a lot of little annoyances, but do not dwell on these because you are after the biggest reason or reasons for the split. Once you have isolated these reasons you will need to think of how you can take some sensible measures to fix them. If they are just left to hang in the air and be repeated you can never achieve the happy relationship you seek.
During this time away from him your ex has had time to consider some things also. He will come to see how much he misses you and needs you in his life. At this same time, you will have come up with the main causes of the breakup and a way to keep them from ever happening again. With your ex beginning to miss you, and you having found a way to fix your relationship problems, this is the time to formulate a plan to get your ex boyfriend back and make him love you again.
Wednesday, 4 November 2009
Why Real Love Requires Self Love
MAIN QUOTE
“We are want to condemn self-love; but what we really mean to condemn is contrary to self-love. It is that mixture of selfishness and self-hate that permanently pursues us, that prevents us from loving others, and that prohibits us from losing ourselves.” ~ Paul Valery, French Poet, 1871 - 1945
DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS
As a counselor I have often told people that they need to learn to love themselves. Yet, while saying this to others, I have at times taken pause to reflect and ask myself, “What does that really mean? How do we know the difference between a self-love and a selfish love? And, what can we do practically to love ourselves in the right way?” Perhaps the quote above holds a clue, because I believe true self love fills us with enough joy, peace, and love that our desire to be loving human beings grows. Because of this we want to express more empathy, compassion, and understanding towards others. Selfish love does the contrary. It increases our sense of self-loathing or our disdain and anger towards others. It causes us to act increasingly in our own best interests without considering the interests of others. It causes us to want to sacrifice others needs and desires in service to our own, instead of the other way around. Or, it causes us to self-destruct through a number of behaviors that may feel good temporarily, but ultimately they lead to the shutting down of our hearts and spiral us downward into increased self-loathing and self-reproach.
How then do we love ourselves in the right way? By first and foremost learning what love is. Then, by insisting that we feed ourselves with that love. This is best done by finding people who know how to love. From them we learn how to adopt loving mindsets, feelings, and behaviors. And, it is done by setting boundaries on people who don’t know how to encourage the greatest level of love in us. Because when we truly have that kind of love in our lives we are increasingly a blessing to others. Which is why real love requires that we love ourselves in the right way, so we can have the strength to love, the wisdom to love, and the energy to love those who need our love the most.
Blessings,
Dr. Lisa Love
Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.
“We are want to condemn self-love; but what we really mean to condemn is contrary to self-love. It is that mixture of selfishness and self-hate that permanently pursues us, that prevents us from loving others, and that prohibits us from losing ourselves.” ~ Paul Valery, French Poet, 1871 - 1945
DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS
As a counselor I have often told people that they need to learn to love themselves. Yet, while saying this to others, I have at times taken pause to reflect and ask myself, “What does that really mean? How do we know the difference between a self-love and a selfish love? And, what can we do practically to love ourselves in the right way?” Perhaps the quote above holds a clue, because I believe true self love fills us with enough joy, peace, and love that our desire to be loving human beings grows. Because of this we want to express more empathy, compassion, and understanding towards others. Selfish love does the contrary. It increases our sense of self-loathing or our disdain and anger towards others. It causes us to act increasingly in our own best interests without considering the interests of others. It causes us to want to sacrifice others needs and desires in service to our own, instead of the other way around. Or, it causes us to self-destruct through a number of behaviors that may feel good temporarily, but ultimately they lead to the shutting down of our hearts and spiral us downward into increased self-loathing and self-reproach.
How then do we love ourselves in the right way? By first and foremost learning what love is. Then, by insisting that we feed ourselves with that love. This is best done by finding people who know how to love. From them we learn how to adopt loving mindsets, feelings, and behaviors. And, it is done by setting boundaries on people who don’t know how to encourage the greatest level of love in us. Because when we truly have that kind of love in our lives we are increasingly a blessing to others. Which is why real love requires that we love ourselves in the right way, so we can have the strength to love, the wisdom to love, and the energy to love those who need our love the most.
Blessings,
Dr. Lisa Love
Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.
Why Real Love Requries Honesty
MAIN QUOTE
A lie will easily get you out of a scrape, and yet, strangely and beautifully, rapture possesses you when you have taken the scrape and left out the lie. ~Charles Edward Montague, Disenchantment
DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS
Recently, I picked up a great book, Act Like A Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey. Overall, I love the book except one part of it gave me pause and made me reflect. It was in the chapter about “Why Men Cheat” on their wives, girlfriends, etc. Harvey’s basic answers are: 1) They Can. 2) They Think They Can Get Away With It. 3) He Hasn’t Become Who He Wants and Needs to Be or Found Who He Truly Wants. 4) What’s Happening at Home Isn’t Happening Like it Used To. 5) There’s Always a Woman Out There Willing to Cheat With Him. And, ultimately he explains the man hasn’t got his priorities straight especially in having a real and meaningful spiritual practice in his life.
Ok. So far, so good. And, I also agree with what Harvey says regarding why a man is able to get away with his cheating and lying behavior with the women he is with. One reason this happens Harvey explains (using my paraphraze of what he says not his exact words now) is because any woman he is with hasn’t set high enough standards in her life to respect and love herself enough to see what is going on right in front of her and take a stand about it. She basically colludes in the notion that denial is good for you. After all, “What you don’t know won’t hurt you.” And, since her denial lets him get away with what he wants to, he is happy to join in on the denial party with her. But, denial is not good for you and it feeds one of my four major love myths I discuss in my Attracting Real Love course — love is blind. Wrong! Real love actually requires 20 - 20 vision because you only know how to really love yourself and others when you are seeing what you need to see clearly.
Which is why when I read this in Harvey’s book I decided I couldn’t disagree more. He says if a woman starts to catch on to a man’s cheating and lying behavior and starts to ask questions a man is going to just do more of his lying and denying game. Why? Harvey says men will do this “if we care about you. But, if not — if a man doesn’t see you fitting into his life plan — he won’t even bother with all of the covering up.” WHOA!!! Come on, Steve! I know the rest of your book also says that a man who really loves a woman won’t cheat, but let’s clear this up right now! Le’t not make it seem like somebody is cheating and hiding the truth from someone out of love. No way, no how!
So, why do we really lie? Plain and simple We’re afraid. Period. Why are we afraid? We don’t love ourselves or the people around us enough to live in truth. And, real love requires the truth. Not some blunt rude make people feel stupid and horrible version of truth. But, truth nonetheless! And, if you want proof of who has the most loving relationships going on between them? Well, it’s between people who can live in truth completely. They love and respect each other so much they want to be honest with them. They care about not hurting them. They care about being loved and respected in return for who they are flaws and all. And, they want a partner who can hear the truth and help bring it all into the realm of consciousness in a loving way and heal any fear in the realm of love. That means the more a couple lies to each other, the more they actually are in fear of each other, which means love really isn’t very present at all.
Now, why do we refuse to live in truth? It’s simple. We are thinking more about ourselves and coming from our egos. We simply don’t want to have to face the consequences of what we are doing and be forced to change our hurtful behaviors. We don’t want to feel bad about ourselves by having to see clearly what is really going on. Or, to share another quote, We tell lies when we are afraid… afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger. ~Tad Williams. In short, we are afraid to love and feed fear in our lives instead.
Ok, I don’t expect people to be perfect. But, try this on for size. Next time you catch yourself or other people telling lies ask yourself this, “What am I afraid of and how does this reflect a lack of love in myself or a lack of love regarding the people I am with?” Then, ask this, “What would it be like to love myself and others enough to be willing to take the scrape, instead of give one?”
Notice this as well. Despite what people say finding out the truth doesn’t hurt! What hurts is discovering how much there was a lack of love and how real love was replaced by deception and fear. Remember, real love heals it doesn’t hurt. And, though it may hurt to find out about lies, shedding them actually opens you up to attracting more real love in your life creating space for the rapture described in the main quote above — for yourself and the people around you.
Blessings,
Dr. Lisa Love
Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.
A lie will easily get you out of a scrape, and yet, strangely and beautifully, rapture possesses you when you have taken the scrape and left out the lie. ~Charles Edward Montague, Disenchantment
DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS
Recently, I picked up a great book, Act Like A Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey. Overall, I love the book except one part of it gave me pause and made me reflect. It was in the chapter about “Why Men Cheat” on their wives, girlfriends, etc. Harvey’s basic answers are: 1) They Can. 2) They Think They Can Get Away With It. 3) He Hasn’t Become Who He Wants and Needs to Be or Found Who He Truly Wants. 4) What’s Happening at Home Isn’t Happening Like it Used To. 5) There’s Always a Woman Out There Willing to Cheat With Him. And, ultimately he explains the man hasn’t got his priorities straight especially in having a real and meaningful spiritual practice in his life.
Ok. So far, so good. And, I also agree with what Harvey says regarding why a man is able to get away with his cheating and lying behavior with the women he is with. One reason this happens Harvey explains (using my paraphraze of what he says not his exact words now) is because any woman he is with hasn’t set high enough standards in her life to respect and love herself enough to see what is going on right in front of her and take a stand about it. She basically colludes in the notion that denial is good for you. After all, “What you don’t know won’t hurt you.” And, since her denial lets him get away with what he wants to, he is happy to join in on the denial party with her. But, denial is not good for you and it feeds one of my four major love myths I discuss in my Attracting Real Love course — love is blind. Wrong! Real love actually requires 20 - 20 vision because you only know how to really love yourself and others when you are seeing what you need to see clearly.
Which is why when I read this in Harvey’s book I decided I couldn’t disagree more. He says if a woman starts to catch on to a man’s cheating and lying behavior and starts to ask questions a man is going to just do more of his lying and denying game. Why? Harvey says men will do this “if we care about you. But, if not — if a man doesn’t see you fitting into his life plan — he won’t even bother with all of the covering up.” WHOA!!! Come on, Steve! I know the rest of your book also says that a man who really loves a woman won’t cheat, but let’s clear this up right now! Le’t not make it seem like somebody is cheating and hiding the truth from someone out of love. No way, no how!
So, why do we really lie? Plain and simple We’re afraid. Period. Why are we afraid? We don’t love ourselves or the people around us enough to live in truth. And, real love requires the truth. Not some blunt rude make people feel stupid and horrible version of truth. But, truth nonetheless! And, if you want proof of who has the most loving relationships going on between them? Well, it’s between people who can live in truth completely. They love and respect each other so much they want to be honest with them. They care about not hurting them. They care about being loved and respected in return for who they are flaws and all. And, they want a partner who can hear the truth and help bring it all into the realm of consciousness in a loving way and heal any fear in the realm of love. That means the more a couple lies to each other, the more they actually are in fear of each other, which means love really isn’t very present at all.
Now, why do we refuse to live in truth? It’s simple. We are thinking more about ourselves and coming from our egos. We simply don’t want to have to face the consequences of what we are doing and be forced to change our hurtful behaviors. We don’t want to feel bad about ourselves by having to see clearly what is really going on. Or, to share another quote, We tell lies when we are afraid… afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger. ~Tad Williams. In short, we are afraid to love and feed fear in our lives instead.
Ok, I don’t expect people to be perfect. But, try this on for size. Next time you catch yourself or other people telling lies ask yourself this, “What am I afraid of and how does this reflect a lack of love in myself or a lack of love regarding the people I am with?” Then, ask this, “What would it be like to love myself and others enough to be willing to take the scrape, instead of give one?”
Notice this as well. Despite what people say finding out the truth doesn’t hurt! What hurts is discovering how much there was a lack of love and how real love was replaced by deception and fear. Remember, real love heals it doesn’t hurt. And, though it may hurt to find out about lies, shedding them actually opens you up to attracting more real love in your life creating space for the rapture described in the main quote above — for yourself and the people around you.
Blessings,
Dr. Lisa Love
Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.
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